tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post3273806758489745548..comments2024-01-21T09:23:22.984-08:00Comments on The Girlfriend Fastlane Blog - Jake Payton: How to Rate your WomanJake P.http://www.blogger.com/profile/10072931865569525339noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-38647874022649745002012-12-14T11:20:05.753-08:002012-12-14T11:20:05.753-08:00So let me get this straight. You're seeing a ...So let me get this straight. You're seeing a chick openly and you're worried about her cheating? Seems like a double standard to me. If you're sleeping with other people you should be cool with it if she does. That's a totally different scenario then an exclusive relationship where both parties have agreed not to cheat, or even a situation where you're just dating and leading up to a relationship. <br /><br />As far as you believing women won't cheat, when your skillset gets very high, you'll start to know that women won't cheat on you because no one else can emotionally wrangle them in like you'll be able to. They'll be hooked. <br /><br />As far as her lying to you, why is it such a big deal to you? If you don't take the relationship seriously you shouldn't care so much about her lying to you from time to time. You're dating around and sleeping around, so she should be able to do the same. If you're going to be serious with her, then be serious. If you're not, then this type of thing shouldn't bother you. IMO, the problem is the dichotomy in what you want, the lying is just a result of that. <br /><br />For example. I'm sleeping with a number of girls, and from time to time they might break plans and give me a reason they broke them. I don't care if it's a lie, we just reschedule and fuck then, because neither of us are super emotionally invested. On the other hand, if i'm dating a girl seriously and we're exclusive, then it's totally necessary for me to be able to trust her. If she breaks that trust in some way then I might choose to end the exclusivity but I might still sleep with her for some time after that. Jake P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10072931865569525339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-38297692040586673442012-12-14T11:02:29.226-08:002012-12-14T11:02:29.226-08:00The list you're looking for includes any possi...The list you're looking for includes any possible good trait a guy can have, and the combination of them that he has. A woman will emotionally invest more and more as she gets to know the man she is dating better. There are some strategies that cause this more than others though. My strategy has always been to be challenging to a woman and make her really work to get to know me and be with me. Jake P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10072931865569525339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-39327989012445501482012-12-13T02:22:21.740-08:002012-12-13T02:22:21.740-08:00Thats fucken crazy dude, idk, what ive experienced...Thats fucken crazy dude, idk, what ive experienced, all women are frickin liars.... Its sucks, like they always gotta lie about shit... And its hard to really trust a women nowadays or want to be in a relationship. Like I have this girl, were in this love thimg where we express ourselves and she knows im seeing other girls, and shes really invested in me, she writes really long texts expresaing her love and somtimes she tells me shes afraid to lose me, she got really really mad at herself wen I wanted to break up with her for lieing. Im very curious how long do u think she will be cool with that? cause I love sarging. My guess is forever. and it kinda sounds funny how u believe women wont cheat, like I wish I had that belief. I kind of do when I begin somthing with a women and everything goes real smooth and shes honest about things. But yeah, thats a big reason why I stay away from relationships. And if she were to want me to settle with her, id tell her no because she lied, which is kinda sad though....<br /><br />How would I get over the fact that she lied and how caan I know if she will ever do it again? Is there tests? Cause this is a cool girl.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-8358776922810475012012-12-04T10:45:35.632-08:002012-12-04T10:45:35.632-08:00Hey Jake, following your response to Jon, I have t...Hey Jake, following your response to Jon, I have the same belief that women are generally faithful to the guy they are super into. Then, what would be some real life examples to get a woman emotionally invested? I would imagine it would be along the lines of being "hot and cold" or doing push and pull? Stephen Bnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-50391153792710344572012-11-30T11:20:46.400-08:002012-11-30T11:20:46.400-08:00Good question. No I don't think the criteria ...Good question. No I don't think the criteria will change for me. I really don't see a correlation between sexual experience and likelihood to leave a marriage. There are even porn stars who have long lasting marriages. <br /><br />The reality is that when a man has the ability to make a woman emotionally invested in a relationship, most women are very faithful and won't cheat. The reason why is simple. Women follow their emotions. If she's emotionally invested into a man, it's tough for other men to take that away or change it. It's my belief that when a woman is emotionally taken care of, she's highly unlikely to cheat. <br /><br />As far as the double standard goes, I used to not want a woman who had had a lot of sex, but it was because I hadn't had a lot of sex, and I think I naturally wanted someone compatible with my level of sexual experience. This want was also rooted in ego for me, because I wanted to be the only one or the best one who had fucked her. These days if a woman is clean and we're together, her past doesn't affect me too much. Jake P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10072931865569525339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-70357424355842138022012-11-27T12:01:25.854-08:002012-11-27T12:01:25.854-08:00Do you think the sexual value criteria would be di...Do you think the sexual value criteria would be different if you're looking to get married? From what I understand, the fear is a that a sexually experienced woman would be more likely cheat or leave. That could be very expensive and emotionally damaging if you're married to her, but more like hitting a minor speed bump if you're just dating and have the ability to replace her.<br /><br />It's clearly a double standard to consider experience good for a man, but bad for a woman, but I wonder if there is a rational basis for it or if it's just a remnant of an outdated belief system and insecurity.Jonnoreply@blogger.com