tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post766487282811710327..comments2024-01-21T09:23:22.984-08:00Comments on The Girlfriend Fastlane Blog - Jake Payton: Dead-Airing ExplainedJake P.http://www.blogger.com/profile/10072931865569525339noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-19682395752219191952013-04-13T01:23:30.759-07:002013-04-13T01:23:30.759-07:00Jake, The dead air explanation helped me a lot, as...Jake, The dead air explanation helped me a lot, as I am in a similar situation. I met her at a bar/club, talked for over an hour, and went through attraction, into light and deep rapport, but she had to go. I got her number and called her on the spot, so she programmed my name in her phone. She texts me a few hours later before bedtime. She starts texting me at least twice a day, and we banter back and forth. I set up a day two for a week after we met, so we met up for a couple of drinks, things went pretty good, although I didn't go beyond stage one kino, but solid eye contact. Second meet up to go bowling, I was going to escalate as far as possible. We talked while waiting for a lane, and she said she was still down with a cold, but didn't want to last minute cancel and seem like she was flaking. I told her I appreciate that, but she could have told me she wasn't feeling good, and I would have understood and still called her again...., in a year or so (with a smirk on my face). She gets my tease, and says, "oh real nice," but she's laughing. I cut the meet up short, because I could tell she's not feeling good, telling her if she's not feeling good, she's not having fun, so let's do it another time. Walk her to her car, and she says we'll have a lot more fun, next time. A missing bit of info.: after our day 2, she doesn't text me, unless she's responding to my setting up a meet-up. A little over a week later,I contact her about meeting up. No texts in between.I ask how she's been, and say "we're getting together to do something fun on Thursday!" Her: "what's up on Thursday?" ME: I replied to her asking how I've been, then said, "As for Thursday, for starters it's with me. I'll let you know the rest later." A little later, I text her the name and address for another bowling alley, but don't mention we are going to karaoke, not bowl. I ended up sending her the above, and the other info, in a series of 4 texts, that were all short, and didn't seek an answer. I know, still not good! She texts me the day of the meet-up and says, "Bad news...I can't make it tonight. Just got my visitor and its being a major B." Me, 2 hours later: "OK, maybe some other time." Then I figure out what she's saying, she's on the rag. I haven't even kissed her on the lips, yet, so a questionable excuse unless she had big plans! I wasn't too bummed at all about her flaking, I went out that night and met some even hotter girls! I thought about it, and decided I either had to put her on the back burner for a couple of weeks, or not contact her at all, unless she texts/calls me first. I was undecided, then before reading your explanation, I decided to "dead air" her. Oh, one other thing, I'm 58, but people tell me I look about early to mid-40's, and she's 28, and is a single mother. She doesn't know or ask my age. Slender, leggy El Salvadorian. I've been going out quite a bit lately, and getting really good at opening girls, building attraction and rapport, and getting numbers. Occasional same night lays. More of a natural/direct approach. Good call to dead air her? KURTAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-87884167514832592312013-03-12T09:51:28.284-07:002013-03-12T09:51:28.284-07:00Post your text conversation on 30/30, private mess...Post your text conversation on 30/30, private message me, and i'd be glad to dive into your specific situation there. If i attempted to answer your question, I suspect it would be not only very long, but probably not be able to answer the question you're asking. I do have a texting e-book written, but it has not been released yet.Jake P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10072931865569525339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-4583553530039938642013-03-04T14:32:00.065-08:002013-03-04T14:32:00.065-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Andrewnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-53230967599415068862013-03-01T14:24:35.948-08:002013-03-01T14:24:35.948-08:00You mention that there is a struggle sometimes bet...You mention that there is a struggle sometimes between the man and the woman and that this is a dominance struggle. At what part of the text conversation do you respond to what the girl is saying in the conversation thread and try to reestablish dominance or do you proceed with just ignoring the girl when she says something negative to you in response to your texts and continue on your own thread. This is a hard thing for me to decipher which way to proceed with this. <br />Thanks again JakeAndrewnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-23887034630993393802013-03-01T12:52:56.142-08:002013-03-01T12:52:56.142-08:00Yeah I can definitely help you out with this over ...Yeah I can definitely help you out with this over the phone, it's just an issue with the way you're thinking. I'd love to help!Jake P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10072931865569525339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-37488224294875629292013-03-01T08:05:17.832-08:002013-03-01T08:05:17.832-08:00Yeah, that sounds about right.
Is that something ...Yeah, that sounds about right.<br /><br />Is that something you can help with on a phone consultation or is it just a matter of putting in the time?Jonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-42779235190639171462013-02-28T18:07:59.409-08:002013-02-28T18:07:59.409-08:00To me this just sounds like you don't necessar...To me this just sounds like you don't necessarily have a very positive expectation of success. When you've got a some measure of certainty that you'll bang a chick if you try, your motivation will be a ton higher. I see this all the time. Guys who don't believe they'll really get laid have a huge amount of time getting over that first chunk of work before they get laid and get themselves out of their slump.Jake P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10072931865569525339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-49632429722701035652013-02-28T15:38:32.875-08:002013-02-28T15:38:32.875-08:00I might have accidentally done this right once!
Y...I might have accidentally done this right once!<br /><br />Years ago I met a girl through a mutual friend. The first time I asked her out she said something along the lines of not feeling comfortable with just the two of us hanging out together. I told her I understood and then just stopped talking to her - in my mind I'd moved on.<br /><br />Not too long after that she called me and asked me out. :)<br /><br />Generally though, I tend to take the lazy approach and "dead-air" women before talking to them at all. It's kind of like a dysfunctional form of outcome independence - I'm so detached from the outcome that I don't try to get anywhere in the first place.<br /><br />So far that strategy hasn't worked very well...Jonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-69048001179387229492013-02-27T10:30:04.101-08:002013-02-27T10:30:04.101-08:00This could mean:
1. She changed phones or lost h...This could mean:<br /><br />1. She changed phones or lost her phone and doesn't have your number<br />2. She deleted you <br />3. She doesn't remember you even though she knows your name<br /><br />I might say something like "Did you lose your phone or something? It's Jake." <br /><br />Another thing you could do here is send a picture so that she knows for sure who you are. You could also facebook her by getting her last name when you put her phone number in, that way you could do the part where you recontact her on facebook. <br /><br />This whole scenario rarely happens to me anymore, but when I think about why I think it's because i'm rarely re-gaming old numbers these days. Instead i'm usually just going out and grabbing new girls. However, when I was more intermediate I was running into stuff like this more, but that was before I started putting my name in their phone or texting them right away. Obviously I recommend those techniques to combat this stuff, but the real answer to this question is that from time to time when it happens you'll likely just have to remind her. Jake P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10072931865569525339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-71594550978775363272013-02-27T02:48:57.042-08:002013-02-27T02:48:57.042-08:00Read this post;
Great analysis of test messaging. ...Read this post;<br />Great analysis of test messaging. What if, in this instance ( or other instances), you text a girl and she says, "huh" or " who is this" ( assuming you tried one of the techniques whereby you have programmed your number in her phone as "Jake is hot" for example? Sometimes this happens after you have texted a girl after a long time after meeting her or you are trying to resurrect "dead numbers"<br />Thanks JakeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-73453431931592264062013-02-26T17:22:50.121-08:002013-02-26T17:22:50.121-08:00Dead airing a girl can look bad in a number of way...Dead airing a girl can look bad in a number of ways. I would recommend against dead airing a girl anytime that it will appear like you're doing it out of anger or bitterness. I outlined one such situation in another blogpost on here, though i'm not sure off the top of my head which one. I'd also not dead air a girl who I don't believe is attracted enough for it to work. That would be a huge misstep, because then she would just leave. <br /><br />The trick to all of this is knowing what the woman is thinking when she texts you and why she thinks what she does. Constantly concern yourself with the questions "Why would she text that?" and "What is she thinking?" and you'll get very far with texting. Jake P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10072931865569525339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6515866518091314074.post-1057959130935611442013-02-26T16:48:01.068-08:002013-02-26T16:48:01.068-08:00Love the "balancing act" paragraph. A gr...Love the "balancing act" paragraph. A great summary of what pickup is about. Any situation where dead airing would clearly be a bad idea?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com