The secret screening mechanism.....

 

How to Make Women Hit on You

 What's up pickup fam.  It's Jake and I'm making some videos on YouTube now as Jake Payton.  I'll also be on linkedin, twitter (Click here for link to Social medias) , and starting to do some shorts on if I can figure out how to edit, etc.  If you're a ninja at this I NEED YOU so we can exchange services.  Currently I'm in North Carolina.  

Anyways, here's the video and I hope you like it..

Pickup Guy Approached Jake P. & Student... Poorly.

Hey guys long time no pen.  

For whatever reason, YouTube has been on my mind a lot lately and I'm thinking of doing a video or two or a hundred.  Anything you'd like to see?  I'm thinking right now I might do a "Blogpost Series" where I go through all of these old blogposts and do videos on them.  What do you think?  Comment below.  

Additionally I wanna tell you about someone who did an approach on my student and I while we were in a set last weekend.  

So I'm coaching my latest client and a guy comes up and to our 5 set (me, student, 3 women) and just interrupts all of us saying "What's up everybody?"  

Then he stares at us all as if we're supposed to be his best friend, and I'll be honest with you... if I hadn't immediately thought he was a pickup student I'd have ignored him entirely, or worse.  Instead, I decided to pause and see what the group would do with the guy, and since everyone was warmed up and in a good laughing mood (because of me), they let him in.  

Later I ended up somehow standing next to the guy and I asked him "So how's the pickup going?" which is probably the least enjoyable question to get when you're new at approaching people.  Of course he's like "Oh what do you mean?" and I explained to him that I know what he's doing and I'm a coach so he can drop the oblivious act.  

So what is this whole thing about?  

1.  OPENING A GROUP OF 5 PEOPLE BY TRYING TO ADDRESS ALL OF THEM AT ONCE IS DUMB.  

2.  IF YOU'RE WANTING TO GET INTO A GROUP, OPEN ONE PERSON IN THE GROUP (GIRL OR GUY) AND INCLUDE WHOEVER DECIDED TO LOOK.  

3.  OPEN WITH IMPACT YOU IDIOT!!!  

Let's go through these one by one in a bit more detail:

First off let's chat about opening groups with more than 3 people in them.  When I first started approaching, I had heard that it's a think to just open like 8 people by getting their attention all at once.  Total horse shit.  I tried this many many times, and in fact I did it while coaching often, and it always turned out poorly because people just don't do this.  Alpha males don't do this.  

Here's what happened to me:  I made a damned fool of myself.  

The reality here is that it's a MUCH better play to just position yourself on the side of the group, wait for an opening, then open someone on the edge of the group.  If someone else starts listening to you then address them with your eyes and include them that way.  Then when you're accepted by those first couple people it'll be much more likely that you'll get accepted by the group.  

That very same night I was coaching and that very thing happened to me.  I chatted with 2 girls at the back of the drink like and they happened to be with two more who were adjacent to them.  They joined, the girls let them know "he's cool" and then all was good.  They loved me.  

Next up, opening with impact.  

Sorry guys, "What's up everybody" isn't going to cut it.  It's low impact and assumes FAR too much that you'll get compliance from the group you're opening.  The reality here is that if you're not offering obvious value of some sort (like maybe you look super cool or you have a couple chicks with you), asking people what's up and then not saying anything just pisses people off.  You know what I thought?  I'm like "So that's it motherfucker?"  

BORING.  

So open with some impact.  Talk about a funny situation you just saw, give a compliment, do an opener that's professionally scripted and has been proven to work well, etc.   

DON'T BE AN IDIOT.  

That's all for today guys, thanks for reading.  

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Nothing To See Here... Much Longer

Hey guys, long time no pen.

I hope you're all doing super well and getting through this whole 'Rona bullshit without harm to you and yours.  Truly I do.

As for me, I've been holed up in my West Hollywood apartment for awhile.  First two weeks of quarantine for me were basically a daily beer and weed festival with occasional Netflix (if i'm honest I did watch the Tiger King lol), so that was fun for a bit.   I've been collecting some vinyl and enjoying my 70's McIntosh Stereo system to it's fullest as well, and no covid "me lung flu long time" for me, so I'm lucky.  

But!  As most things do, TV, beers, weed and sex got old and boring, so I started getting back to getting some work done.  I can report that I've done a couple cool things, and I'm working on even more cool things.

First off, some free content!  My older brother has decided to start his own YouTube show/podcast, so he asked me to do an interview about my journey through dating and business.  We chatted last night for a little over an hour and 15 minutes about everything from my first approach using Horsegirl to my current business situation.  It's a little personal for me to let everyone in on my family, but at this point i'm kinda like fuck it, let it roll, you know?

Click here to watch the video interview

One thing you guys might be interested in taking a peek at is that my brother is a total natural.  He was a 4-sport letter winner in high school and went on to get a college scholarship and try out as a punter for the NFL.

I've always tried to understand how he's so good at making fast friends with people, and I've even pitched him to see if he'd make a tutorial for girlfriend fast lane on jakepayton.com to explain what he's doing.  He's not a "conscious" guy about what he's doing though, so who knows if that'll ever happen.  One things for sure though, he can walk in a bar and be friends with new people in 5 seconds, the asshole!  I never had it that easy, and I'm anything but a sports guy.  In fact, growing up people didn't even call me Jake, they called me "DJ's little brother."  Fucking dicks.

Anyways, I think you'll enjoy the interview so that's why i'm posting it.

The next thing coming down the pipeline is i've started new or updated all my social media finally!

You can follow me on the major 7 platforms including NEWLY ADDED TikTok and Linkedin!  Just click on these links pretty pretty please if you would:

https://twitter.com/jakepulls
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https://www.youtube.com/user/jakepulls

Other things going on...

So I've been still coaching a TON throughout this quarantine.  I've also been having some amazing long chats with an old Brad P. coach that we've been recording, and we're conjuring up a way to use the audio from them for content, so you'll see that coming through soon perhaps in audio or otherwise.  I'm finally to the point where I'm past the old girlfriend fast lane website woes, so now that the website functions without breaking I can focus on free content and growing the brand.  I truly hope you'll join me for the ride and be some of the first guys to help me grow.  Any time that you can share and spread the word you'll be helping this 13 year devoted dating guy keep going at it without dropping out or selling out.  After all, the reality is that there isn't another guy in the WORLD who has the ability to make girls approach him like I do, and I gave you guys that free content first almost 8 years ago in the "She's Not Even In the Fucking Room" Post.

But there's some bad news too...

This blog will stay here, but I'm planning on completely stopping writing on it.  To take it's place, I'm putting the blog right on jakepayton.com where I can re-write and perfect the old content, and you guys won't be hearing endless pitches from me anymore, lol.  I'm gonna give out tons of free shit, and the paid stuff will be for guys who want personal help.

In other words, I'm gonna try and grow up.  In fact, I'll be turning 40 years old next month (May, 2020).  But don't think that'll stop me from hitting the bars for the next 10 years and giving this shit a go for as long as possible.  With any luck my old crotchety ass will be wheeled into bars in my wheelchair so I can watch guys do approaches from the comfort of some space cart Elon Musk will probably develop soon for the geriatric.  HA!

So that's it for today guys.  I'd like to thank those of you who have been along with me in this past 13 and a half years now since I started coaching.  It's been nothing but wild, and today I was hunting through past nudie pics i've got and I was wowed at the amazing journey i've had since I was a super frustrated chumpy total NEWB.

Now i'm not though.

Cheers guys, I love ya!  Keep yourselves safe and stay the fuck inside!  See if you can masterbate on live chat with girls from dating sites until we can all get back into the bars.  I'll catch up with you very soon...

It's Alive! The New Girlfriend Fastlane & Black Friday Deal.

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Here's the REAL MAGIC PILL You've been searching for. Not a joke.

Yooooo guys!  Hi again.  I know it's been awhile.

Today I wanna talk about what's been on my mind lately, and it's likely something you've not heard before.  Spoiler alert:  I'm not selling you anything today, so just a good read.

First off, though, a quick update on the new website.  Yes, the new website is coming down the pipeline.  I had an unfortunate setback with a web developer and lost a significant amount of time and money, but I assure you I'm working through this problem and the new website is going to be better than ever...  (like, it'll have a homepage and it'll work without issues, lol).  I could still use some help though, so if you're a guy with more time and skills than budget, get ahold of me!  I'm searching hard for someone capable of video editing on Adobe Premier Pro and I need some graphic design, so if you've got those I'm happy to take you out and get you some women.  Email me at jakepulls@gmail.com if this is you.  It's a chance to get free coaching and get into my inner circle, and if your game is in my mind it's a very good thing.

The other update going on is that I'm about 90% booked out till the end of January right now (woohoo!) so if you want some coaching you can still get some, there are just not any full weekends available until February.

Okay, updates over.

Lately I've been thinking a lot about the evolution of game.  I've been chatting with some "older" students who have trained with every company across the board, and when they find out my dominance struggle theory they go crazy.  Not joking, they go fucking crazy and get super excited.

"You mean I don't just have to go out and say all these crazy memorized routines and hope they stick?"

Correct.

"Wait, but is this natural???"

No.

"So what is it?"

It's the ability to flex your creative muscle in order to create a dominance struggle.  And it's what I believe to be the single most important factor in determining how good you'll be with women for the rest of your life.  

Let me explain.

I'm sure many of you guys are listening to Joe Rogan's podcast, and to me the life of a comedian has many similarities with the life of a guy who is learning dating.  We both do "sets," and we both go through this ABSOLUTELY CRAZY task of flopping like hell until we ever-so-slowly learn our skill set bit-by-bit.  The end result is that to the layman you are just killing it!  You're prepared for any and everything someone might think in their head or try and do to you before they ever attempt it.  I can literally count down the seconds until a girl approaches me or re-opens me, and it's a symptom of the original "embrace and extend" theory that Brad P. taught me years and years ago.

The concept is this:  When you embrace the concept behind a routine because you've done that routine a bunch, you'll soon start to branch off of the original words and use the concept in different places.  This extension in your ability to use the theory opens up new doors to new things to say, and when you write those things down, you can repeat them forever and they always work, and it's because the original concept or theory behind the routine you learned still works.

Got it?

So what happens when you can do this with dominance struggles and how does that relate to the current state of game that's taught across the dating industry?

First off, it's obvious that much of the dating industry still teaches routines (myself included).  They're a great way to start you out and get you through the initial stages of overcoming your fear and being able to open and start getting attraction.  Cool.  The problem with this method of coaching was that students experienced extreme backlash from women when women "found out" that the student wasn't as charismatic as he was professing to be.  Often and expectedly, the routines were delivered terribly with poor facial expression, tonality, and overall energy, and it caused havoc.

Enter "Natural Game."

Backlash from what you could call really really unnatural game caused the industry to adjust.  Now the plan was to sell "Natural Game," which I can only imagine was some dumb "be yourself" shit that coaches tries to adjust to or something?  I'm not sure, I never jumped on this marketing train.  It's important to note though that GUYS FUCKING KNEW that pickup and routines were unnatural, even when those guys were not the most social guys.

Okay, so we started with super unnatural game, then went to trying to do the most natural game ever (read:  guys flopping super miserably).

So what's the end game here?  Where does the dating industry end up?

The way I see it, we end up teaching a way of gaming that absolutely appear natural in every way to the woman.  In other words, you didn't walk up from 20 feet away, you didn't say an awkward long memorized line, and you have plausible deniability that you're even making an approach.  In other words, should she accuse you of hitting on her you could EASILY make a quick and solid argument against that frame.  (quick for instance, if you said "Uh, you bumped into me lady.  Get over yourself.")

So what's the minimum amount of canned "game" we need and how can we make this process seem absolutely like "it just happened" to the woman?  What MUST we do and what can we absolutely not do?

Well, there are things that you absolutely cannot NOT do.

For instance, you can't NOT open (until you're at a higher level and you can do my "she's not even in the room" stuff, which for the record I've never seen another human be able to do).  To make your opening as natural as possible, it MUST be situational,  it MUST be something normal guys would say, or it MUST be a spin on something a normal guy would say.

Spoiler alert:  I already teach exactly this, and you can do it.  You already do.

Second thing you can't not do:  You also can't NOT continue speaking after you open a girl.  You simply MUST continue talking after your opener.  You talk 100% and she talks 0%.  This is the rule.  Be the guy you are around your friends and family who doesn't hold back in any way.  Show her 100% the true you.

That covers opening and the beginning of attraction.

Next up, what's the end-game of attraction?

News Flash:  It's dominance struggles.  Women screen first by seeing if your level of social dominance is even worth paying attention to, then by trying to socially dominate you for clarification of your value.  THAT'S IT.  Done.

Now we come to the interesting part of things, because if you're a guy who just doesn't communicate enough value to the woman in front of you, then you won't be able to practice dominance struggles.  She'll simply not respond to you and you won't get tested by her, and not you can't practice this most important skill in the entire world.  Womp.  That sucks.

So we need a method for practicing dominance struggles, and we need it to be natural and not routine-y.

This is where our creativity is necessary.

The task at hand for a guy learning dating is to be able to practice the dominance struggle "dance," and the minimum way we can do this is by giving you... you guessed it... a canned line!

Yayyyy, more canned shit... I know.

It's important though!  It's a very small, short line, and it's the ONLY line you'll ever have to learn, I assure you.

Remember earlier when I talked about embracing a concept and then extending it?  This small bit of a beginning script is the FIRST STEP you'll take towards gaining the skill set of CREATING DOMINANCE STRUGGLES WITHOUT SCRIPTS.

Now stop, please.  This is the single most important thing I can possibly tell you in your whole life.

When you can create dominance struggles "on the fly" or seemingly out of nowhere with a woman, and you can do so in the context of a role-play, you will never in your life struggle with women ever again.  

Let's talk about the IMMENSE benefits of this:

1.  100% Natural, because it's based on what you're already seeing, hearing, and feeling in that moment.

2.  MINIMUM AMOUNT OF "CANNED" or "SCRIPTED" LINES.   Literally it's one fucking line I give you and maybe an opener or two which have now become a few words you're already saying.  This is literally the minimum you can do of using lines.

3.  Allows you a platform for practice and development of your dominance struggling skill set (the skills you'll need your entire life if you want to keep a women or get infinitely many new women).

4.  Always maximizes your chances at getting attraction, because women use this screen to literally decide if they're attracted.

5.  Over time you develop your creativity more and more, and in doing so you become more and more "natural" in your appearance to the women you meet.  Yes, you're using a theory, but you're using it in the way YOU use it.  This means its 100% congruent.  You can't be "caught" doing this because it'll never come off like a line.

So that's it.  The "end game" for everyone and anyone in the dating industry will be to learn this simple formula of being able to open in a seemingly natural and therefore plausibly deniable way and then creatively start a dominance struggle (as a means to attraction) with the woman in front of you.

(Note here that when I'm talking about opening, I'm talking about obeying the first rule of attraction, which is that for a girl to get attracted to you, she has to NOT know if she could "get you.")

Also, for good measure let's throw in the 2nd rule of attraction (first time announcing this):

The second rule of attraction is that if a girl somehow gets the idea that she could have you if she wants to, you must CREATE DOUBT in her mind if you want to get that girl.

...and by doubt I mean real, plausible doubt, not just saying something like "whatever you couldn't have me!" or some other uncalibrated shit.  She must actually get the idea that she was wrong about her initial impression.

So that's it.

The "end game" for the dating industry gives guys who are learning about women:

1.  The ability to open in a plausibly deniable way so that the woman doesn't instantly think she could have the guy if she wanted

and

2.  The ability to learn and practice how to attract women using the woman's own screening mechanism.  

Do you know anyone else's method in the dating industry that accomplishes both of these?  I sure don't.

And by the way, these two points have EXTREME BENEFITS FOR THE STUDENT!

1.  When you can open in a plausibly deniable way, it eliminates approach anxiety!  When you don't feel like she "knows" you're hitting on her, how nervous do you feel?  Probably not nervous at all, right?  Yeah... me neither.

2.  When you can practice beating a woman's screening mechanism, you're like a comic working on his material over and over until you can creatively do this in a fun way for you, and there is no better way to keep you interested in the process.

It should be FUN to hit on women!

It should NOT be scary, anxiety-inducing punishment that makes you wanna stay at home, get high, order a pizza, eat it, then jerk off to porn while getting fatter by the minute, only to end up a super-alone creepy weirdo.

Cool.  So that's my lesson today.  Hope you liked it.

For more on this visit girlfriendfastlane.com or email me:  jakepulls@gmail.com

See you guys soon.

The Four Relationship Conditions

If I'm honest, not a lot of things interest me in the dating realm anymore, because honestly at this point I feel like I've heard it all.  However, one thing that does interest me is creating brand new, profound ways to understand the dating process, and today I'd like to share one such realization with you.  

That realization is that no matter who you have met or what you would tell others your relationship is like with a girl, your relationship will fall into one of four categories.  Furthermore, I would bet money that unless you understand today's post and how your actions relate to it, that ALL your relationships throughout your life will likely fall into the same exact category, every time.  

Why, you ask?

Because the condition of your relationship is determined by levels of eagerness in your words and in your actions.  In fact for most guys, eagerness in words and actions amount to a behavioral condition around women that lasts for life.  It's difficult if not impossible to change unless you're aware of it, so let's open your eyes for a bit here...

First off, let's talk about the 4 relationship conditions.  They are:

1.  Underqualified for the girl

2.  Overqualified for the girl

3.  Stringing the girl along

4.  Boyfriend Potential/Further relationship potential

So how does this affect your life?  

Well, let's say that you're a guy who is continually not getting results from new interactions.  If this is the case then it's likely that you're a guy who is consistently becoming under qualified for the girl in some way.  It's also likely that this is happening quickly upon meeting the girl because that's when she's saying no.  

Another example.  Let's say that you're losing women, but they're dumping you 6 months into the relationship.  Well, it's likely that you might have started out with some boyfriend potential, then you had further relationship potential, and then finally you became under qualified for the girl and then she dumped you... womp.  

It's important to understand that these conditions are caused by your level of eagerness in your words and actions, and that's because eagerness is quite closely related to attraction.  You could be (in no specific order):

-eager with your words and actions

-eager with your words but not your actions

-not eager with your words or actions

-not eager with your words and not eager with your actions

*Each one of these conditions creates a specific relationship condition from above.*

Now it's important to remember that eagerness itself isn't necessarily bad!  It's how each individual woman interprets your eagerness that you should be aware of, and this is often where compatibility lies for those who have no awareness of their own actions and how they might affect a woman's emotional state and level of attraction.   In other words, if you're clueless then you might be a guy who ends up under qualified his whole life until one specific woman interprets your actions in a different way than the others have.   Then and only then would this type of guy say "She's the ONE!!!!" and fall in love.  Well, that is until she eventually interpreted his eagerness differently and then dumped him again cause he's under qualified.  

So there you have it.  Your levels of eagerness in your words and actions directly result in one of the four relationship conditions I've talked about above.  

Which one are you falling into and how can you change it?  

So that's it for today guys.  For more on this or to watch a specific video tutorial describing every aspect of this in thorough detail, join the revolution at girlfriendfastlane.com.  I'll see you in there!  

Oh, and btw if you haven't seen my list of free text messages to send yet, I updated it a few days ago and you can check it out by Clicking Here.  Be sure not to miss the new "Space Force" text, lol.  

See you next time,

Jake