It's a NEW ERA for Dating..

 Hey guys, long time no chat!  Holy moly have I been on a ride since we talked last, lots has happened.  

So let's get up to speed...  

First off, I now have 2 kids, a boy and a girl.  Little girl came first, and the boy second.  I'm with the same girl I've been with for a very long time and in case you're wondering, although we're committed to each other, I don't have Uncle Sam's blessing on my relationship in the form of a contract that will ruin my life if we break up.  So if you're thinking about getting married with an actual contract, remember that you can still tell your partner in 2026 "I'm willing to do all the things associated with marriage... we can have rings, a ceremony with our family and friends, a full lifelong commitment, live together, kids, etc. I just have one requirement and it's that Uncle Sam isn't invited."  That's what I've done and it's fine.  Yes, you can also do a prenup and no, those aren't easy for her to back out of.  However, I MUCH prefer the first option.  Nothing is worse on a guy than having to now pay to leave a relationship and get dragged through courts with half your shit gone, so DO NOT do it.  And that's of course if you didn't already know this... lol.  

Okay on to the next order of business.  What the fuck happened to me over the years?  Okay so I'll give you the recap.  Brad stopped coaching many years ago and started a different business.  We're still to this day buddies and we talk all the time.  All good.  Other coaches:  Glenn I still chat with on the phone maybe once a month.  Gabriel is all over the place in Mexico and back to Los Angeles from time to time, and we chat.  NOLA is crushing real estate down in New Orleans and we talk still on the phone as well.  

Most excitingly, DavidMC (our old Aussie coach from 30/30) and I still chat a couple times a week, and in fact he made it to Los Angeles 2-3 years ago so we could go out and teach him the dominance (or now AI wants me to say Leadership, lol) theory.  He took that and married a hot young girl in Belarus that he has no earthly business impregnating, but he did and now they have a baby as well.  

Let's break down his process so we can all learn from it.  David got his first hot chick in Belarus and she was busting his balls.  He had heard and read about my dominance struggle theory on here and on the phone with me.  Still, when he got this particular girl he was getting angry about losing some fights, etc. and as we talked through her and went through fight by fight, things improved and he got better, but he still ended up breaking up.  

This is normal.  

It's normal any guy learning dominance struggle theory to lose a girl or two on the way to becoming a dominant guy.  This happens because the "picture" she's painted of you is changing into a different one.  Women paint a picture of your dominance level in their heads as they gain experience with you, and although the picture can change and can change fast (like for instance if we're on the phone fixing your relationship day-by-day or week-by-week), often it's the case where a guy has to burn through a girl or two on the way towards becoming the man who can tackle the challenges she throws out on a day to day basis so that the relationship can survive long term.  

Can I save YOUR relationship if it's going a little sideways and getting a little shaky?  

The answer I have to give you sucks because I haven't diagnosed YOUR particular situation, and it's that sometimes it's savable and sometimes it's not.  Also sometimes when I pull the bag off your head because I understand something about her that you don't, commonly it happens that once a guy understands more about the woman he's with, he loses respect for her and WANTS to leave.  That's always an odd transformation for me to "eat popcorn and watch", but it happens.  Funny how men across the board are just cool with a breakup, they just need to understand what's happening so they can draw their own conclusions.  

Mostly, I find that men struggle when a breakup has unknowns, and they thrive once they have an understanding (for real) of what happened... difficult or not.  

DO YOU NEED A DIAGNOSIS?  Use the link on the right side of the blog for my "Store" and I'll hop on a free call with you.  Or just click HERE

Moving on...

With the new wide availability of AI, lots will now change for me, personally. 

For many years now, you've seen me struggling to do things like post regularly, keep a website working, etc. and it's because over the years every time I've thrown 5k or 10k at someone to help me with trying to get all my business ducks in a row, it's failed.  

Sorry.  

But!  It's a new era and with AI access I can now hammer it with editing questions finally pump out a video or two for you guys, so look for more of that coming down the tubes.  The current plan is to use YouTube as my main platform, and I'll post shorts to all the platforms as well (should be the same short for awhile on each platform).   

The best thing you can do to help me out would be to (of course) subscribe, like, and COMMENT so I hopefully reasonably spread my message, because I truly believe (as I'm sure you all know) that I've got THE solution for men out there.  

I CAN USE YOUR SUGGESTIONS FOR VIDEO CONTENT!  Just comment on any video on any platform, and I'll do my best to do a video for you.  In fact, I would love a video question from you somehow so that I can do a video response.  However... this tech shit is still wildly hard for me and I will have to ask AI to walk me through making like a reaction video with a picture-in picture or something.  I'm super newb.  

Which brings to mind...

IF YOU ARE SOMEONE WHO CAN BE A CONTENT EDITOR/POSTER/FILM PERSON FOR ME, I WANT YOUR HELP!  

I'm a top pro in game, no doubt.  And I'm still a top loser in content creation and essentially an unknown.  It's been my bottleneck for real for a long time.  So if you're a guy who is comfortable and can help with this, I'd love to talk with you.  I'm happy to trade learning dating for helping me with content, and if you're in the Los Angeles area I'm happy to do some training in person even.  

IF YOU JUST WANNA LEARN GAME ON A BUDGET I NEED YOU TOO.   

Now I don't want to film women in the bars without them knowing.  Many of you know I've always been against that and I think it's a violation of privacy unless she knows and is okay with the posting.  Even then, she might not be later, so I don't film sets.  

However...

I've been kind of tossing around the idea of doing some YouTube content where I take a couple guys out with a camera guy and I just change a couple guys from 0 women to a 3 girl rotation for YouTube growth purposes.  I would imagine it would me somewhat interview based?  Like we do interviews of the guys before, during, and after trainings, on the street, with theory, etc. and the whole thing is filmed by the content dude (who I'm hoping is one of you).  

I think this could be super cool.  

However...

You MUST be the type of guy who is open to being on camera for YouTube.  Dating is a personal thing, so exposing yourself in a capacity like this requires vulnerability in a public domain.  

Also, it's not free.  I'm going to do the heaviest possible discount to get this content out, but I also need to live and likely pay for some content/editing help.  

I NEED 2 GUYS, and ONLY TWO guys.  

If you're interested in the transformation on camera or helping with content and editing off camera, email me jakepulls@gmail.com.  I will choose the best 2 candidates and this isn't a 100% happening idea yet, I've just always wanted to do it and I figure it would be cool for YouTube.  

Other news...  

A month or two ago I attended the Owen Cook live Free Tour Seminar.  For those of you who are old like me, I'm talking about Tyler from The Game.  For whatever reason I still struggle calling him Owen lol.  But anyways I was there and I was astonished.  About 150+ people showed up to downtown and to me it was incredible to watch.  There was a hypnotist who signed up maybe 75 people to get transformation, and after that Owen talked for like 5 hours non-stop and signed a bunch of people up for training.  The guy has great stage presence and comfort, and although it was tough for me to always follow his "free form" style, it was cool to watch.  

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't jealous.  

I'd (of course) love to do a chat like that and to have the opportunity to get on a stage in front of that many people.  For years all I gave a shit about was game game game and why why why.  Tyler was over there building his business and wow what a job he did.

After the seminar, Owen asked me if I wanted to come to the (paid) seminar to help out and I was like hell yeah.  So a couple weeks later I came and helped with the seminar.  There were about 50 people there, and I quickly learned that Owen is teaching personal branding, speaking from stage, stage presence, and other modern forms of the same social skills we've taught for so many years already.  

The "Cherry on top" (as he called it) was the in-field time.  

We went out to Venice after the seminar at like 12:30am and spend basically a "power hour" doing gaming.  Many of the guys (and a couple girls!) out with the group were approaching, and most guys approaching had no problem opening some women.  I was able to help out, give advice where I could, and I even "pulled" a chick in front of a couple students as a demo.  Obviously I didn't really pull the girl cause I have a woman and two kids, so it was more like a guy fishing who catches a fish, shows it to his friends, then gently releases the fish back into the water.  Trust me though when I say, I know when it's pull and when it's not going to be.  I've known for a very, very long time... 

Wanna be stunned like I was?  NO ONE AT THE TRAINING HAD ANY TRAINING OR OPENERS.  

I couldn't believe it.  There was a 20 year follower of Owen taking his first workshop and he just approached being like "hey guys what's up what's your name?  Where are you from" and my jaw was on the floor.  I was so confused that I had to ask Tyler like what's the deal??? You only go out for an hour?  He's like "yeah man it's just the cherry on top for the seminar.  we all go out and game, and some people take it seriously, some people just wanna see me game, some guys wanna use it for a sales skillset development, etc."  My jaw was on the floor, and he informed me that basically in his eyes the pickup market is kinda dead.  

Is the pickup market dead???  What do you think?  

The next move for Owen is to "do stadiums" as he put it.  He even told the seminar that if they want pickup training, to "get it now before it's gone."  His 5 hour talk was, in his words, "for legacy purposes."  Here I am wishing I had eyeballs and he's working on legacy.  

Man, do I have some work to do...  

I still can't wait to coach more, and I feel entirely under utilized and ill-accomplished.  I've not yet succeeded in getting my message out, and I don't think I'll stop pursuing this until I do.  

It's odd what I'm seeing these days as far as dating.  Everyone is confused, basically, and some of what we did 20 years ago has permeated society.  A new generation of guy are using pickup information, and "Mogging" is even a mainstream term.  WTFFF??   It's been a looooong time since I was thinking about amogging.  

Maybe I'm crazy?  but I do see some younger guys coaching online, and I just don't see men meeting women going away anytime soon.  Regardless, this is what I love and I plan on throwing my hat in the ring here before I give up.  

Back to the seminar. 

The most astonishing thing I witnessed first hand at Owen's seminar was for sure the really amazing vibes from everyone, coaches included.  Everyone was getting some great speaking training and help with social skills, the people were all welcoming to one another, and the overall vibe was amazingly positive.  I've also not ever seen a $200k Miami fashion week weekend pitched before, but that's another story for another time.  

Overall impression of Owen's free tour:  Impressive as fuck.  Hat's off to him and the great job he's doing for people.  I'd recommend you check it out when it's in your city.  Who knows, I might even be back myself.  I'm happy I reached out to him to attend.  We've known each other for so long and I had never been to see his seminar before.  

Other than that, I'm still coaching as much or more than ever and still going at it.  I do have to wear glasses sometimes cause I guess we all start going blind at this age, but other than that I'm same old Jake just with more finished cars.  

Cheers and chat soon!  Thanks for reading and thanks for your continued comments, follows, subs, and support!  

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How to Make Women Hit on You

 What's up pickup fam.  It's Jake and I'm making some videos on YouTube now as Jake Payton.  I'll also be on linkedin, twitter (Click here for link to Social medias) , and starting to do some shorts on if I can figure out how to edit, etc.  If you're a ninja at this I NEED YOU so we can exchange services.  Currently I'm in North Carolina.  

Anyways, here's the video and I hope you like it..

Pickup Guy Approached Jake P. & Student... Poorly.

Hey guys long time no pen.  

For whatever reason, YouTube has been on my mind a lot lately and I'm thinking of doing a video or two or a hundred.  Anything you'd like to see?  I'm thinking right now I might do a "Blogpost Series" where I go through all of these old blogposts and do videos on them.  What do you think?  Comment below.  

Additionally I wanna tell you about someone who did an approach on my student and I while we were in a set last weekend.  

So I'm coaching my latest client and a guy comes up and to our 5 set (me, student, 3 women) and just interrupts all of us saying "What's up everybody?"  

Then he stares at us all as if we're supposed to be his best friend, and I'll be honest with you... if I hadn't immediately thought he was a pickup student I'd have ignored him entirely, or worse.  Instead, I decided to pause and see what the group would do with the guy, and since everyone was warmed up and in a good laughing mood (because of me), they let him in.  

Later I ended up somehow standing next to the guy and I asked him "So how's the pickup going?" which is probably the least enjoyable question to get when you're new at approaching people.  Of course he's like "Oh what do you mean?" and I explained to him that I know what he's doing and I'm a coach so he can drop the oblivious act.  

So what is this whole thing about?  

1.  OPENING A GROUP OF 5 PEOPLE BY TRYING TO ADDRESS ALL OF THEM AT ONCE IS DUMB.  

2.  IF YOU'RE WANTING TO GET INTO A GROUP, OPEN ONE PERSON IN THE GROUP (GIRL OR GUY) AND INCLUDE WHOEVER DECIDED TO LOOK.  

3.  OPEN WITH IMPACT YOU IDIOT!!!  

Let's go through these one by one in a bit more detail:

First off let's chat about opening groups with more than 3 people in them.  When I first started approaching, I had heard that it's a think to just open like 8 people by getting their attention all at once.  Total horse shit.  I tried this many many times, and in fact I did it while coaching often, and it always turned out poorly because people just don't do this.  Alpha males don't do this.  

Here's what happened to me:  I made a damned fool of myself.  

The reality here is that it's a MUCH better play to just position yourself on the side of the group, wait for an opening, then open someone on the edge of the group.  If someone else starts listening to you then address them with your eyes and include them that way.  Then when you're accepted by those first couple people it'll be much more likely that you'll get accepted by the group.  

That very same night I was coaching and that very thing happened to me.  I chatted with 2 girls at the back of the drink like and they happened to be with two more who were adjacent to them.  They joined, the girls let them know "he's cool" and then all was good.  They loved me.  

Next up, opening with impact.  

Sorry guys, "What's up everybody" isn't going to cut it.  It's low impact and assumes FAR too much that you'll get compliance from the group you're opening.  The reality here is that if you're not offering obvious value of some sort (like maybe you look super cool or you have a couple chicks with you), asking people what's up and then not saying anything just pisses people off.  You know what I thought?  I'm like "So that's it motherfucker?"  

BORING.  

So open with some impact.  Talk about a funny situation you just saw, give a compliment, do an opener that's professionally scripted and has been proven to work well, etc.   

DON'T BE AN IDIOT.  

That's all for today guys, thanks for reading.  

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Nothing To See Here... Much Longer

Hey guys, long time no pen.

I hope you're all doing super well and getting through this whole 'Rona bullshit without harm to you and yours.  Truly I do.

As for me, I've been holed up in my West Hollywood apartment for awhile.  First two weeks of quarantine for me were basically a daily beer and weed festival with occasional Netflix (if i'm honest I did watch the Tiger King lol), so that was fun for a bit.   I've been collecting some vinyl and enjoying my 70's McIntosh Stereo system to it's fullest as well, and no covid "me lung flu long time" for me, so I'm lucky.  

But!  As most things do, TV, beers, weed and sex got old and boring, so I started getting back to getting some work done.  I can report that I've done a couple cool things, and I'm working on even more cool things.

First off, some free content!  My older brother has decided to start his own YouTube show/podcast, so he asked me to do an interview about my journey through dating and business.  We chatted last night for a little over an hour and 15 minutes about everything from my first approach using Horsegirl to my current business situation.  It's a little personal for me to let everyone in on my family, but at this point i'm kinda like fuck it, let it roll, you know?

Click here to watch the video interview

One thing you guys might be interested in taking a peek at is that my brother is a total natural.  He was a 4-sport letter winner in high school and went on to get a college scholarship and try out as a punter for the NFL.

I've always tried to understand how he's so good at making fast friends with people, and I've even pitched him to see if he'd make a tutorial for girlfriend fast lane on jakepayton.com to explain what he's doing.  He's not a "conscious" guy about what he's doing though, so who knows if that'll ever happen.  One things for sure though, he can walk in a bar and be friends with new people in 5 seconds, the asshole!  I never had it that easy, and I'm anything but a sports guy.  In fact, growing up people didn't even call me Jake, they called me "DJ's little brother."  Fucking dicks.

Anyways, I think you'll enjoy the interview so that's why i'm posting it.

The next thing coming down the pipeline is i've started new or updated all my social media finally!

You can follow me on the major 7 platforms including NEWLY ADDED TikTok and Linkedin!  Just click on these links pretty pretty please if you would:

https://twitter.com/jakepulls
https://www.facebook.com/jakepaytonofficial/
https://www.instagram.com/jakepaytonofficial/
https://vm.tiktok.com/WqupAN/
http://linkedin.com/in/jake-payton-5969221a6
https://www.youtube.com/user/jakepulls

Other things going on...

So I've been still coaching a TON throughout this quarantine.  I've also been having some amazing long chats with an old Brad P. coach that we've been recording, and we're conjuring up a way to use the audio from them for content, so you'll see that coming through soon perhaps in audio or otherwise.  I'm finally to the point where I'm past the old girlfriend fast lane website woes, so now that the website functions without breaking I can focus on free content and growing the brand.  I truly hope you'll join me for the ride and be some of the first guys to help me grow.  Any time that you can share and spread the word you'll be helping this 13 year devoted dating guy keep going at it without dropping out or selling out.  After all, the reality is that there isn't another guy in the WORLD who has the ability to make girls approach him like I do, and I gave you guys that free content first almost 8 years ago in the "She's Not Even In the Fucking Room" Post.

But there's some bad news too...

This blog will stay here, but I'm planning on completely stopping writing on it.  To take it's place, I'm putting the blog right on jakepayton.com where I can re-write and perfect the old content, and you guys won't be hearing endless pitches from me anymore, lol.  I'm gonna give out tons of free shit, and the paid stuff will be for guys who want personal help.

In other words, I'm gonna try and grow up.  In fact, I'll be turning 40 years old next month (May, 2020).  But don't think that'll stop me from hitting the bars for the next 10 years and giving this shit a go for as long as possible.  With any luck my old crotchety ass will be wheeled into bars in my wheelchair so I can watch guys do approaches from the comfort of some space cart Elon Musk will probably develop soon for the geriatric.  HA!

So that's it for today guys.  I'd like to thank those of you who have been along with me in this past 13 and a half years now since I started coaching.  It's been nothing but wild, and today I was hunting through past nudie pics i've got and I was wowed at the amazing journey i've had since I was a super frustrated chumpy total NEWB.

Now i'm not though.

Cheers guys, I love ya!  Keep yourselves safe and stay the fuck inside!  See if you can masterbate on live chat with girls from dating sites until we can all get back into the bars.  I'll catch up with you very soon...