Turn the tables

Lately one of my favorite things to do when talking with women is something called a role-reversal.  A role reversal is the acting out of a situation where the man takes on the traditional role of the female and vice-versa.  In other words, if in a situation a female normally would do X and a male would do Y, then when acting out a role reversal the man might do X and expect the female to do Y.  This past weekend I sarged a bit in Houston, and using a role reversal I opened a smoking hot Latina girl and was able to get two free drinks and a makeout within about four minutes!  Role reversals should be one of the many powerful tools in your social arsenal, so today I wanted to share with you a bit about what happened and how you can use role reversals to flirt during your sets.

Bloody, Cutting Edge Amogging

The ability to get yourself into a talkative mood (called getting "in-state") is an essential skill in pickup.  When you're in-state you'll do your best pickup by far.  You'll have great energy, be able to better think on the fly, extend routines naturally, and you can even seem drunk to others when you're totally sober simply because you're so talkative.  One of the best things that happens when guys are in-state is that they come up with new phrases organically.  These unexpected moments of greatness can be some of the funniest and best lines in pickup.  I spit out one such line last weekend while teaching a workshop, and I think it's one of the best and easiest lines to use i've ever come up with.  Interested?  Keep reading...

Q & A on Flaking

Hey guys,  I thought for today's blog post i'd share some transcription of the audio from one of the weekly Monday night theory sessions I teach in Hollywood.  This particular night we were talking about texting, flaking, and how to mirror varying levels of disinterest with the girl.  This conversation is great because many guys not only are very scared to say negative things to women, but also most men don't really understand how to give calibrated negative energy to women.  Enjoy! 

Guys are hitting on me

I think every girl in the whole entire world tells stories about how men want them.  They tell them to guys before a relationship, during a relationship, and i'm not sure what they say after cause once i've dumped them I don't exactly call to catch up.  Regardless of when they do it, the story's always the same.   It's goes something like "I was at X place with X friend and all these guys were hitting on us" or "I was in X place and there was this guy who was hitting on me."  Just what exactly does this odd woman-speak mean and how should I react when I hear a story like this from a woman?

We're Lesbians

Girls tell guys that they're lesbians all the time to get rid of them.  No doubt this practice has been alive since the dawn of time and will continue to the end of it.  In fact, present day statisticians report that girls tell guys that they are lesbians an average of eleventy billion times each night.  Wow that's a lot!  But enough science here, why do girls say this to guys, what can we say when it happens to us, and most importantly what can we do to prevent it completely?

Rediscover Your Body and your Potential.

I just woke up this morning from one of the best sleeps i've had in years.  After an exhausting two days and only three hours of sleep, I fell asleep last night about 6pm  and finally woke up at about 8am.  I feel amazingly energetic today and i'm enthusiastic about everything that i'm about to do.

It's odd waking up like this for me.  And by "waking up like this," I mean waking up free from influence of any foreign substance in my body.  Since I was about 16 and started drinking and smoking, i've been abusing everything from food and caffeine to alcohol, pot, and even ecstasy.  I've eaten and drank every thing i've ever wanted.  These days it's different for me.  I haven't drank since new years, I've taken no drugs of any kind for a long time now, I and I don't drink caffeine at all.  In fact, I seldom will even eat processed or non-organic food these days.  Now i'm not saying this to boast, i'm saying it because quite honestly I haven't woken up this sober since I was 16 years old (15 years ago)!  For the first time in a long long time I feel wonderful about waking up every morning and I feel like everyday that i'm free from foreign substances in my body I gain control over myself and I get to rediscover how my body really is supposed to work and what it can do.  This is one example in my life of how starting a positive feedback cycle is leading to exceeding my goals.  I feel so great that I'd love to share with you how i've gotten this far.  I also want to share what a positive feedback cycle is and how you can use it to make living your life the true pleasure it should be.  If that sounds good then I invite you to keep reading...

Avoiding the Back Burner

Girls have shit going on in their lives, tons of it.  They've got a dance class tonight (wait, it is Tuesday right?), one of their girlfriends needs emotional support, twenty orbiters are texting them to go out, they lost their cell phone, their mom is sick, they're emotional about something today (well everything), they're supposed to meet with their work friends tonight for a drink, and to top it all off their vagina is spraying chunks of blood and yeast everywhere six times a day.

Add to all this that you just asked them out and they'll have to get ready, put an outfit on, and look their best, and all of this can get overwhelming for a girl.  What the hell should she do?  She does want to hangout with you (you think), but there's just so much shit to deal with and handle.  Sometimes the best decision available to her is to put you on the back-burner until she knows exactly what to do about all this mess.  The only problem with this is that you have your own shit going on too and you don't want to feel like you're second best to her shit.  So when you're in the process of getting put on the back burner, what can you do to still get the girl without feeling low value or developing a pattern that will lead to her not respecting you?