Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Approach through the bad results.

Are you having some trouble getting yourself motivated to approach, or you're just not approaching at all? I see this in a huge number of students! It's okay, you're not dead yet. Let me tell you what's going on.

The reason we don't approach is because the negative emotions we associate with approaching (and it possibly going wrong/causing us to have an unknown, possibly hurtful result) are outweighing the positive emotions that could result from the approach. Add in a bit of fear and you've got a cocktail that'll get you a hell of a "not now" buzz in a hurry.

So how can we get around this?

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Setting and Maintaining Boundries

Every man should know how to effectively set boundries in a relationship. For those who aren't so clear about what a boundry is, it's something that you will or won't do in a relationship, or behaviors you will or won't accept from a woman you're in a relationship with.

Boundries are extremely important in relationships because the way we set boundries communicates the behaviors that we expect or don't expect to see, and the way we maintain those boundries determines amount of power and control that we will allow the woman to have in the relationship. Obviously we set boundries with even those we're not in a relationship with as well, but for this article i'm mainly going to focus on how to set and maintain boundries in a sexual relationship.

So how do we set up a boundry?