Racing towards 2013: Relationship and Comfort Acceleration

Normally....  I would NEVER tell you to engage in behaviors such as meeting parents, spending entire weekends with girls, spending 3 days in a row with them, taking vacations, and doing other couple-type activities until you're ready to be shacked up with a girl, but for those of you who maybe aren't the best at wrangling a girl in (like you can't really get a single night lay and usually it takes you a few dates to close the girl), using what I call relationship accelerators might help you to establish something quickly before new years or in times where you need a date for whatever reason.  So with New Years Eve just around the corner, what can we do to get women latched onto us in short order?

Christmas Cheer & Relationship Decelerators

Tis the season for not wanting to be alone.  Just last night a girl i'm dating called me her boyfriend out of nowhere, then later called herself my girlfriend, then at the end of the night apologized, saying that she's not used to being single around the holiday season.  Her single friend was also over, and quickly the conversation turned to if I had any hot single friends that wanted to hangout over New Year's Eve.  Over and over and over again every holiday season (especially Christmas time) it's glares obvious to me that women HATE being single throughout the holiday season!  So, the natural question is what can a strapping young single lad do to take advantage of this situation and score some puss?   And if you're in a situation right now where you don't have plans for New Years Eve and you want to get laid, what should you do?

A Guide to Social Connectors

Women who are extremely socially connected are rare.  When you find one, tempting as she may be to have sex with, I would recommend you exercise a completely different plan of action...

How to Rate your Woman

OR!... as we like to call it the "Rate-A-Chick" system.  Wondering how your chick stacks up against another one?  Here's a fool-proof method to know for sure which one is truly better.

Kill "Who is this?" Before it Happens

We've all gotten the whole "Who is this" response from texting a girl.  So how can we keep it from happening altogether?  I like to preemptively strike the whole texting chain right when I get the girl's phone number.  To do this, I simply take her number and tell her...

Convince yourself learning dating doesn't work

The story always sounds something like this...  "So i've tried to pickup women for awhile and it's not working for what I think are x, y, and z reasons.  Now that i've convinced myself that I can't try any harder, i've come up with 10 logical reasons not to try to meet women and work on my dating skills anymore, so i'm thinking of quitting." --- If I had a nickel for every time i've heard a single guy say this... well... i'd have about 52 metal dicks worth of nickels, and if I let a student "sell" me this heap of shit story then i'd be a very ineffective instructor.  So let me tell you why this is bullshit so you can make sure you never fall into this mental trap.  Are you going to fail at your dating life by convincing yourself it doesn't work, or will you be one of the successful guys swimming in vagina for the rest of your life?  Let's find out...

The Room Sweep

One of the easiest ways women catch their men sleeping around on them is by finding miscellaneous objects left in your house from other women.  It could be something as obvious as a video on your computer, a pair of panties, or even a stain on your sheets, but no matter what it is, when you do get caught with some damning piece of evidence that your vaginal Sherlock detects, it's not going to be fun for you.  So if you're starting to sleep with more than one woman and you don't wanna get caught, you might wanna do "The Room Sweep"....

Home Care Basics

So you're a up-and-coming man and you want to ready your house for glory.  What are the bare essentials you need at your place so that she keeps coming back?  And if you've got those down already and wanna go the extra mile, then what?  For my blogpost today i'm going to tell you all about this stuff, but first i'd like to tell you a bit of a story about what the real bare essentials are...

Don't be a Whiney Bitch Boy

I've seen it over and over, so many times it makes me wanna vomit.  I see guys in relationships who are so afraid of making their woman mad that they'll do anything to keep it from happening.  The process is simple:  Guy gets girl, guy doesn't want to lose girl cause she's his source of pussy and he's not quite sure if he can get something like her again, guy does anything girl says and anything he can to appease her, eventually girl gets bored and cheats, guy loses girl, guy is whamboozeled and can't for the life of himself understand what happened, guy wants the girl back, guy turns into a whiney bitch boy riddled with post-breakup drama and one-itis.  You don't wanna turn into a whiney bitch do you?  Good.  Let me tell you now not to turn into a whiney bitch.

The Dominance Struggle (2/2) "In-depth" Theory

That old adage you've heard "hot girls don't get hit on much because guys are all scared to hit on them, so if you hit on them you'll probably stand a good chance" is total bullshit.  Hot girls get hit on all the fucking time, and have been getting hit on since their nipples first grew into golf balls when they were twelve.  How many times is this?  Well it's probably a few times a day minimum, maybe a thousand a year conservatively... so if she's 21 then she's already got 5000 "approaches" under her belt, and if she's  40 then that number is more like 20 to 25 thousand, and that's a conservative number!  Do you have even 5000 approaches yet?  And if she's got even 10,000 approaches under belt and she's only slept with 10 or 20 guys, then that means only one out of every 500 approaches leads to someone fucking her.  Wow!  So I ask you this:  How does a hot girl keep from getting fucked every night she goes out?

The Dominance Struggle (Part 1/2)

Everything in a pickup is about the struggle for dominance.  Sure there are pre-requisites to the dominance struggle, like presence, BL, blah blah fucking blah but where the rubber meets the road in pickup is how you do when it comes to the dominance struggle.  Sure, you can get around it and not totally dominate.  Guys do it all the time.  Girls need to get laid, so they give a guy some room for error, he uses it, and then they both get their sexual needs met.  But that doesn't mean that the relationship is working or is going to work in the long run.  In fact, I believe that this margin for error is where the first fault in any relationship could happen.  The girl says "Well he wasn't the best, but i'll give him a shot."  Then you've got pregnant chicks trying to get married asap before they can fart the fetus out.   Never a good model for how a relationship should happen.

The Sprinkler

Just over a year ago I wrote about a technique I use where I avoid eye contact with people in a bar to create the impression in others that i'm a high-value person and make women intrigued by the combination of my presence and visually apparent lack of neediness.  Even before I developed this technique, I had already been teaching a similar technique to my students called "The Sprinkler."  Now for all you guys who have managed to miss out this long, i'll talk you through it.

The Emergency "AHHHH, I'm Losing her" Plan

Since I started teaching pickup over four and a half years ago i've seen a very common pattern in men's behavior that causes inevitable relationship demise, and it sickens me everytime I hear it.  In fact, the problem i'm about to describe is so common, i'd say it's in the top 5 causes of broken long-term relationships, if not number one.  Just two days ago I had a friend contact me through facebook and tell me his story, and lately he hasn't been the only one.  Because this is affecting people very close to me and close to you, i've decided to address it here.

The pattern is this:  A guy is in a relationship with a girl for a long time, usually around 3-5 years.   He finds out that the girl has been cheating on him, sometimes only "emotionally" and sometimes physically as well.  The guy finds out and freaks out, and the girl often "needs some space" or needs "to figure things out" and decides to sleep somewhere else like her parents house for awhile.  The guy continues texting/calling incessantly, and the girl dumps him.  Sound familiar?  Well even if it doesn't, then read on!  Cause if it's not yet, then it might be before you know it, and even if it's not you with the problem, someone in your life will likely need the following help...

The Celebrity Vibe

One of the coolest things i've learned through studying dating is that I can consciously take steps to make myself  into whatever kind of guy I would like to be.  If i'd like to, I can become a crazy guy, an aggressive guy, a gentle guy, a warm guy, or really any type of guy out there.  If I want to be like any guy i've seen or met in the whole entire world, I can.  All I have to do is have a great example to go by, understand what "elements" make up that guy's personality, choose which elements i'd like to implement into my own personality, then practice those elements during the course of my social life.  Do this, and sooner or later I'm going to become that guy I seek to be.

This idea of growing into the guy I seek to be seems to have been in the back of my mind forever, quietly shaping my life and my decisions on an almost daily basis for a long time now, and it's finally reaping great rewards in my life in the form of pleasure and happiness in both my life and the lives of others.  At this point, I can even engineer the experience others get when they're around me through the energy I give out to others when I meet and converse with them.  But "Hold on here!"... "Wait a second" you might say.  How do I even know who I want to be? Which elements of another guy's character are the best ones for me to implement? And how do we as students make personality changes for the better when we really don't have an idea of what's the best personality to seek to have?  Today I wanna take a shot at answering these tough questions by talking about the way i've seen some very famous people act...

Turn the tables

Lately one of my favorite things to do when talking with women is something called a role-reversal.  A role reversal is the acting out of a situation where the man takes on the traditional role of the female and vice-versa.  In other words, if in a situation a female normally would do X and a male would do Y, then when acting out a role reversal the man might do X and expect the female to do Y.  This past weekend I sarged a bit in Houston, and using a role reversal I opened a smoking hot Latina girl and was able to get two free drinks and a makeout within about four minutes!  Role reversals should be one of the many powerful tools in your social arsenal, so today I wanted to share with you a bit about what happened and how you can use role reversals to flirt during your sets.

Bloody, Cutting Edge Amogging

The ability to get yourself into a talkative mood (called getting "in-state") is an essential skill in pickup.  When you're in-state you'll do your best pickup by far.  You'll have great energy, be able to better think on the fly, extend routines naturally, and you can even seem drunk to others when you're totally sober simply because you're so talkative.  One of the best things that happens when guys are in-state is that they come up with new phrases organically.  These unexpected moments of greatness can be some of the funniest and best lines in pickup.  I spit out one such line last weekend while teaching a workshop, and I think it's one of the best and easiest lines to use i've ever come up with.  Interested?  Keep reading...

Q & A on Flaking

Hey guys,  I thought for today's blog post i'd share some transcription of the audio from one of the weekly Monday night theory sessions I teach in Hollywood.  This particular night we were talking about texting, flaking, and how to mirror varying levels of disinterest with the girl.  This conversation is great because many guys not only are very scared to say negative things to women, but also most men don't really understand how to give calibrated negative energy to women.  Enjoy! 

Guys are hitting on me

I think every girl in the whole entire world tells stories about how men want them.  They tell them to guys before a relationship, during a relationship, and i'm not sure what they say after cause once i've dumped them I don't exactly call to catch up.  Regardless of when they do it, the story's always the same.   It's goes something like "I was at X place with X friend and all these guys were hitting on us" or "I was in X place and there was this guy who was hitting on me."  Just what exactly does this odd woman-speak mean and how should I react when I hear a story like this from a woman?

We're Lesbians

Girls tell guys that they're lesbians all the time to get rid of them.  No doubt this practice has been alive since the dawn of time and will continue to the end of it.  In fact, present day statisticians report that girls tell guys that they are lesbians an average of eleventy billion times each night.  Wow that's a lot!  But enough science here, why do girls say this to guys, what can we say when it happens to us, and most importantly what can we do to prevent it completely?

Rediscover Your Body and your Potential.

I just woke up this morning from one of the best sleeps i've had in years.  After an exhausting two days and only three hours of sleep, I fell asleep last night about 6pm  and finally woke up at about 8am.  I feel amazingly energetic today and i'm enthusiastic about everything that i'm about to do.

It's odd waking up like this for me.  And by "waking up like this," I mean waking up free from influence of any foreign substance in my body.  Since I was about 16 and started drinking and smoking, i've been abusing everything from food and caffeine to alcohol, pot, and even ecstasy.  I've eaten and drank every thing i've ever wanted.  These days it's different for me.  I haven't drank since new years, I've taken no drugs of any kind for a long time now, I and I don't drink caffeine at all.  In fact, I seldom will even eat processed or non-organic food these days.  Now i'm not saying this to boast, i'm saying it because quite honestly I haven't woken up this sober since I was 16 years old (15 years ago)!  For the first time in a long long time I feel wonderful about waking up every morning and I feel like everyday that i'm free from foreign substances in my body I gain control over myself and I get to rediscover how my body really is supposed to work and what it can do.  This is one example in my life of how starting a positive feedback cycle is leading to exceeding my goals.  I feel so great that I'd love to share with you how i've gotten this far.  I also want to share what a positive feedback cycle is and how you can use it to make living your life the true pleasure it should be.  If that sounds good then I invite you to keep reading...

Avoiding the Back Burner

Girls have shit going on in their lives, tons of it.  They've got a dance class tonight (wait, it is Tuesday right?), one of their girlfriends needs emotional support, twenty orbiters are texting them to go out, they lost their cell phone, their mom is sick, they're emotional about something today (well everything), they're supposed to meet with their work friends tonight for a drink, and to top it all off their vagina is spraying chunks of blood and yeast everywhere six times a day.

Add to all this that you just asked them out and they'll have to get ready, put an outfit on, and look their best, and all of this can get overwhelming for a girl.  What the hell should she do?  She does want to hangout with you (you think), but there's just so much shit to deal with and handle.  Sometimes the best decision available to her is to put you on the back-burner until she knows exactly what to do about all this mess.  The only problem with this is that you have your own shit going on too and you don't want to feel like you're second best to her shit.  So when you're in the process of getting put on the back burner, what can you do to still get the girl without feeling low value or developing a pattern that will lead to her not respecting you?