The Four Relationship Conditions

If I'm honest, not a lot of things interest me in the dating realm anymore, because honestly at this point I feel like I've heard it all.  However, one thing that does interest me is creating brand new, profound ways to understand the dating process, and today I'd like to share one such realization with you.  

That realization is that no matter who you have met or what you would tell others your relationship is like with a girl, your relationship will fall into one of four categories.  Furthermore, I would bet money that unless you understand today's post and how your actions relate to it, that ALL your relationships throughout your life will likely fall into the same exact category, every time.  

Why, you ask?

Because the condition of your relationship is determined by levels of eagerness in your words and in your actions.  In fact for most guys, eagerness in words and actions amount to a behavioral condition around women that lasts for life.  It's difficult if not impossible to change unless you're aware of it, so let's open your eyes for a bit here...

First off, let's talk about the 4 relationship conditions.  They are:

1.  Underqualified for the girl

2.  Overqualified for the girl

3.  Stringing the girl along

4.  Boyfriend Potential/Further relationship potential

So how does this affect your life?  

Well, let's say that you're a guy who is continually not getting results from new interactions.  If this is the case then it's likely that you're a guy who is consistently becoming under qualified for the girl in some way.  It's also likely that this is happening quickly upon meeting the girl because that's when she's saying no.  

Another example.  Let's say that you're losing women, but they're dumping you 6 months into the relationship.  Well, it's likely that you might have started out with some boyfriend potential, then you had further relationship potential, and then finally you became under qualified for the girl and then she dumped you... womp.  

It's important to understand that these conditions are caused by your level of eagerness in your words and actions, and that's because eagerness is quite closely related to attraction.  You could be (in no specific order):

-eager with your words and actions

-eager with your words but not your actions

-not eager with your words or actions

-not eager with your words and not eager with your actions

*Each one of these conditions creates a specific relationship condition from above.*

Now it's important to remember that eagerness itself isn't necessarily bad!  It's how each individual woman interprets your eagerness that you should be aware of, and this is often where compatibility lies for those who have no awareness of their own actions and how they might affect a woman's emotional state and level of attraction.   In other words, if you're clueless then you might be a guy who ends up under qualified his whole life until one specific woman interprets your actions in a different way than the others have.   Then and only then would this type of guy say "She's the ONE!!!!" and fall in love.  Well, that is until she eventually interpreted his eagerness differently and then dumped him again cause he's under qualified.  

So there you have it.  Your levels of eagerness in your words and actions directly result in one of the four relationship conditions I've talked about above.  

Which one are you falling into and how can you change it?  

So that's it for today guys.  For more on this or to watch a specific video tutorial describing every aspect of this in thorough detail, join the revolution at girlfriendfastlane.com.  I'll see you in there!  

Oh, and btw if you haven't seen my list of free text messages to send yet, I updated it a few days ago and you can check it out by Clicking Here.  Be sure not to miss the new "Space Force" text, lol.  

See you next time,

Jake

Help! My Numbers are Wood

HEre's an old post I wrote in July of 2008:

At some point in your progress through the game, you might find out that you can open, attract, kino, and get numbers well. Great. However, many people that are in this position will get those numbers but convert them into a very low percentage of dates. I, myself had the "lots of numbers in LA but tons of flakes" problem and at first I got frustrated. Very soon after I crushed the problem with a huge fucking hammer.  

What I found out though is that attraction and kino is enough for the moment, but only THAT moment. The long-term result of attraction and kino that are done perfectly is that the girl will DEFINITELY remember you, but probably not feel CONNECTED with you. This is why she won't answer your texts or call you back.  

How do I get her connected, you ask? You can establish that connection in a few ways, but right here i'd like to talk about three of them with you.

1. Establishing commonalities
2. Conveying your identity with sincerity about what's happening with the two of you
3. Truthfulness with built-in rapport breaking

So here we go.  

1. Establishing commonalities. This one's self explanatory, but the basic formula is to get the girl talking, then when she says she did X thing, you're going to say anything and everything that you know about that thing. In my case, I wear two rings on my left hand. One's from Bali, Indonesia and the other is from my trip to Ibiza, Spain. Anytime the girl talks about traveling (and they all do) then I tell them about my travels and how I wear my trips on my hand. Works wonderfully. A commonality can be as ingrained as that, or it could be something stupid like "Oh you drink Diet Coke? No shit so do i. OMG i'm so addicted to it and I found out through my addiction that everyone who drinks diet coke it addicted. Crazy huh?" Done. Do this well with just one thing that's deeper like my traveling thing and you can get laid from it, or just do it with some smaller things like the diet coke thing. Calibrate this to the depth, intelligence level, and energy level of the girl and situation and you're golden. Learn this calibration through trial and error.

2. Conveying your identity. If you've attracted the girl and kino'd her, but she looks back on the interaction and doesn't know "What you are" (and can't tell her friends) then she won't answer phone calls. What are you and why will she find out?

In my case, I look like a rocker so girls always ask if i'm in a band, or what I do. That's the why of why she'll find out. The "what I am" will come when she asks. When she does, I tell her the honest story about how and why I came to Hollywood (leaving out the dating thing of course). I tell her a quick synopsis of important older events of my life and how they lead me to my current situation. This story shouldn't be super long.

Here's the important part, and the super-successful way that it gets both of us on the same page. So at this point in the interaction, i've opened, she's attracted, i've been kinoing, and i've established some commonalities. 

I usually say something like "Oh, where i'm from X happens or X is how we do something." This prompts her to ask about where i'm from and what brought me to Hollywood. Are you with me here?  

When she asks, I start to act like i'm going to tell her, then I stop, change my tone to a more genuine/serious one, slow it down and "Are we.....? (quick pause) Do you really want to know?" 

When I say "Are we....?" I kind of do a back and forth motion from me to her with my hand. I'm basically saying to her "Are we getting somewhere with this and is this a serious inquiry into my life from somebody who's genuinely interested in me and a possible sexual/intimate relationship OR if it's not then ......."  

**Note that this is a great place to isolate the girl! "It's kinda loud here, let's go over here for a second."**

Does this make sense? I'll tell you that after the word OR in the previous sentance that I don't know what happens there because I've never heard them say no. EVERYTIME they get more serious, I "closen" the kino (make it more intimate, like a bf and gf would do) and they get VERY serious about listening to me. This is a great time to get them to sit on your lap or escalate towards a makeout. It almost always happens after this. Are you with me here?

3. Truthfullness with built-in rapport breaking. This is a simple concept that TONS of guys REALLY FUCKUP in pickup and when talking with women. Basically it's this: Be honest. I'm not talking about spilling something you shouldn't. I'm talking about being honest about your likes and dislikes.  

I'll give you an example: The girl says something like "I like the band Nickelback. They're my favorite." Let's say for a second that you don't like Nickelback (thereby making you awesome). A lot of guys who hate Nickelback in this situation wouldn't say something like "Fuck that, I hate Nickelback. They can smoke my pole" because somehow they have something telling them in their head that if they don't like what the girl likes then they won't be qualified to be with this chick and/or she won't like them if they say something negative about something the girl likes. Instead what comes out is "Hmmm, well they're okay, but I really like X." Guess what's happened here?  You've accepted her frame in an attempt to gain rapport with her.  

This is a pretty subtle thing to pickup on and learn, but it's something everyone learning pickup should understand eventually. I call it being honest with built-in rapport breaking because you're not going to ever run into a girl who has everything in the world in common with you, so when you actually take the honest road on these types of things and tell the girl your honest opinion, you're essentially breaking rapport with her and inviting her to now accept your frame of, in this case, how sucky Nickelback is. Make sense? You're demonstrating that you don't care about if she likes you or not (non-neediness), inviting her to try and chase you and accept your frame (dominance). Do this and observe how many times the girl will be the one who backpedals, saying something like "Well, you're right, they're not the best" or something like that. She does this because you've shown her that you'll be honest even at the cost of her not liking you, and now that she can't lump you in with all the guys who do this, she's attracted and now doesn't want to lose you!. Wow. What a great result! All you had to do was be honest about shit! I really hope this sinks in with anyone reading because I think it's a fantastic thing to learn.

The 90 Degree Rule & How to Stand When you First Meet A Girl

RSD Tyler is WRONG. Here's Why...

Since I'm going to start ruling the entire pickup community (one of these days  😒), I decided yesterday to watch a few videos on YouTube of RSD to get an idea of my competition.  I watched the latest video where Tyler is in Hawaii, another one with him and Jeffy in Vegas talking about how they're "old" now, and a third video that seemed to be highlighting several different cities across america an abroad.  Overall, I have to say I was impressed by a lot of things.  The settings, editing, and cinematography are amazing!  It makes me wish I had a budget for things like other people to work for me, lol.  But here I am 10 years into my career and I don't have that because I've never worked on my career really, I've just been having sex with women for 10 years... (hand slaps forehead...)

So although the videos were great, TYLER IS WRONG about the advice he gave the community on having a "screening frame."  I'm about to tell you why, but first let's discuss the concept so everyone is on the same page.

Okay, so having a "screening frame" when you're meeting women is the idea that you can meet women and give her the idea that you're screening her.  In other words, you have your choice of women and you're deciding if she's good enough.  In the videos, Tyler advocates adopting a "screening frame" when you talk with women, saying basically that if you can do that it'll help your game.  He does not offer up exactly how to do this really.  He does explain why it helps, though.

Personally, I love this concept of having a screening frame and it's definitely something I personally have.  In fact, it's the mark of a guy who has abundance, because when you have abundance you're actually screening for real.  To me this is evidence that Tyler has abundance in his dating life, yayyy.  As many of you know, Tyler and I have literally taught workshops side-by-side in many of the same venues for 10 years or so now in Hollywood, so we'll often chat even with each others students during workshops.  So I'm not here to shit on him or say he's not skilled... really I'm not.  He's put in the time and effort to get good and he's the real deal guy.  We get along quite well, sometimes even end up at the same parties, and we seem to commonly see each other around Hollywood.

The problem with just telling guys "go and try to have a screening frame and it'll help" is that the information is VERY poorly timed for the student and has little to no practical application associated with it that would allow the information to actually be used properly.  It would be like me just telling a student "Go try to be confident, it'll help."  Well, if you don't have confidence, or in this case a "screening frame" then it doesn't really help students to tell them to do that.

Let's go down this rabbit-hole together, starting with a concept called "information timing"...

"Information timing" is that idea that the only information that's going to help you grow as a student is information that you can apply at that very moment, and anything else will either go straight over your head or worse, it could hurt your game even.

For instance, let's say I tell a virgin all about how to aggressively kino (touch) a girl.  This information would be quite poorly timed for him.  It would likely be FAR over his head, and if he was unlucky enough to believe the advice I tell him enough to actually go and do some aggressive kino, he could have some very negative consequences.  He could get slapped or even arrested for some type of sexual crime, and obviously this would be a terrible result.

The same is true for this piece of advice Tyler gives, it's extremely poorly timed for almost the entirety of his students, and if they go out and try to do this, it's likely going to kill their game because in practice they will most certainly apply this information incorrectly.

Allow me to talk about my experience here first, then we're going to talk about practical application of this concept.

When I was coming up in the game I heard about the concept of screening a girl VERY early on.   It came in the form of a Mystery routine (that's the dude mystery, not "something that is difficult or impossible to understand or explain").  In the routine you tell the girl something to the effect of "Tell me three things about yourself that I would like."  --Ugh, just writing that makes me wanna puke, because I remember actually saying this to a girl and getting my ass handed to me.  I got a "WTF" look from a hot girl and she was like "Bitch, tell me three things I'd like about you, cause I don't see any right now from where I'm at."---  "oh shit..."  

So did adopting the "screening frame" help me?

Fuck... No.  

It didn't help because it was poorly timed information for me and because I didn't have a practical way to apply the information.

Now let's talk about what actually happened to me when I was learning game.

First, I went out and tried and tried and tried non-stop like 5 days a week (or more sometimes) until I learned all my basic skills and was getting numbers and a few dates.  Then I came to Hollywood (a huge culture shock for me being from Iowa) and spent 3 full months gaming before I got laid.  From there, Brad told me "I don't even wanna see you until you've got a rotation."  I think within a few weeks I had one, and then the very next week I went from dating 3 girls to dating 7.  This is what it looks like when you're starting to get abundance.

Now I had a time problem.

To me, 7 girls is manageable, but back then and for most guys it's not.  You start forgetting who is who and I had to start making myself notes on my phone of who each girl was so I could remember where I met her.  Try it.  Go try turning 100 sets a week into 30 phone numbers and then 7 girls you're dating and tell me if you need notes... I did.

What starts happening is that the confusion, lack of time, moral concerns, and everything else kick in and you're literally forced to start telling some women no.  You start not returning texts, telling girls you're taken, telling new ones you don't wanna date that you have a girlfriend, etc. just to get them to go away because you know that you don't have time for them and they're just not good enough for you anyways.  The only new girls you do have time for are girls who you deem "better" than the one or ones that you're currently seeing.

THIS IS SCREENING.

Screening came as a direct NEED from having abundance.  Once you have a rotation of women and you're having sex all the time, you simply won't have enough time for all of the women who want you, and you'll start finding ways to say no.

First off, you'll stop caring.  Once you've got your first rotation of three women, you'll be having sex with 1-3 girls every day and literally there is a physical and mental change in your entire being.  This is not something you can mimic as a beginner, and if you haven't experienced this yet I highly recommend it.

That lack of caring causes you not to feel a lot of the needs that you previously had that were causing you to act "weird" and have lack of success as a result.  You stop being as attentive to women, you stop agreeing with everything they say, you stop trying so hard, and you start to become more audacious about standing up for yourself and generally about handling things you're now starting to see as women's "bullshit" as I like to call it.

At this point, your results multiply at an exponential rate.  Things get easier and easier, and you'll experience HUGE paradigm shifts in your thinking from time to time.  Abundance and screening are first, and after that you can expect about 1-2 huge realizations each year I'd say, and I'm talking about Earth-rattling realizations that are so profound you believe there won't be another one... until there is another one.  Then another, and another.  I believe there have been about 10, maybe 11 times this has happened to me, and each time I think there's no way this could happen again.  "I'm just too far along in this process to not be done yet" I think.

Now I say all this all at the risk of sounding super-duper braggy because I want to illustrate fully the path you're on when you start to screen.  Again, it's a result of abundance, NOT a cause.

So can you "fake it till you make it?"  as Tyler seems to suggest?

Well, you'll NEVER be able to truly fake all the things that come along with true abundance... you just won't.  Women can smell this shit a mile away, especially the hot ones...

***Side note: A 42 year-old ex-10 (super duper hot girl who now is single and 42 for whatever reason) has a SERIOUS problem on her hands because she's used to screening for and getting guys who have abundance using her social dominance techniques, yet now her looks don't warrant attention from those same men.  Uh oh.

Now she's in a situation where she has trouble being attracted to any guy she can reasonably attain, because she won't be attracted to any guy who can't get through her screening.  In other words, she is only attracted to guys who are socially dominant enough to get through her screening, and her screening is now at it's best because at her highest level of experience, yet she can't attract those guys now because she's too old and guys who have that ability would just choose a hotter younger girl.

This is why women marry for money... because they can't get a dominant male anymore, so the next best thing is having a lavish lifestyle with a beta male whom they can control.  They reason that he's dominant to appease themselves in their mind because he's in a position of wealth, but this is mostly delusional.***

So back to faking your way through screening... lol.

So there are some things you can do, and these are things that practically can be taught using live coaching.  These are things like breaking rapport, showing outcome independence, sticking up for yourself, challenging her back when you're challenged, not accepting her frame, etc.  These are the skills you need to win a dominance struggle, and they can be taught as they come up situation-by-situation in live-game.

Oh wait, sorry, nobody knows what dominance struggles are yet...  (second forehead slap).  Dammit, why didn't I work on my business more and not just have sex all day everyday for a decade...

Anyways, moving on...

The point of this whole story is that if you're a beginner you shouldn't be worrying AT ALL about trying to adopt a "screening frame."  The reality is that you won't have one in the beginning, and that's fine.

Did you hear me clearly there???  It's fine!

Until you do have a screening frame for real, you can start learning individual concepts that you'll later have when you work hard enough to get the real screening frame, and those concepts will help you with something far more pressing:  learning how to dominance struggle with the women you meet.

So just to be clear, here is the process of learning pickup:

1.  Fix your fashion.  It's your ticket to the game.

2.  Do whatever you need to do to be able to start conversations with women.  Conversations are your learning platform for skills like attraction, etc.  Don't not open girls because you're working on your inner game.

3.  Incite dominance struggles in your conversations in order to learn how women screen so you can beat what they're doing.  Do this not and you'll spend a lot of time not getting screened at all and wondering what the hell to do in game.  (I spent YEARS that I could have saved if I had known this).

4.  Beat women in the dominance struggles you create and watch in amazement as you start to get attraction all the time and have sex all the time and create abundance in your life.

5.  Adopt a screening frame because you NEED to, not because you TRIED to.

6.  Write posts like this telling the top pickup "GURU's" that they don't know shit because they were working on their business for 10 years instead of learning their craft.

7.  Be jealous of Tyler's empire and the amount of people he can reach.

The End.

Okay, not the end just yet.  So I guess summing this all up, I just am annoyed that seemingly the "best" information out there from quite frankly the most well-known active coach is information like "adopt a screening frame so that she feels like you're screening her!"  

To me this shit is just sooooo old-school and tired.  It's the same regurgitated shit from 10 years ago, and unless you assist in teaching practical application, then really all you're doing is hurting your students by telling them some ill-timed attributes that dudes who are better than them have and beginners don't.  This is the same as just saying statements like "Just have confidence, dude" and it doesn't help anyone.  It just confuses people and demonstrates that we as a community of coaches can't do a great job for our students by leading them to learn the right information at the right time.

Instead of giving this advice out to people who can't use it yet, we should be talking about skills that beginners and intermediate guys can use.  Let's talk about skills that demonstrate social dominance and skills that will in-turn help guys win dominance struggles in-person with the girls they meet.  We should be talking about skills that get you the abundance of sex you need to actually adopt a real screening frame out of need, not a fake screening-frame that you want because we told you it's there when you're already good.


Okay, so that's all I have to say about that.  Thanks for reading...

The 90 Degree Rule

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The Entire Dating Industry is FUCKED! (Spoiler Alert!)

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Why, you ask?

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I WANT THIS MESSAGE TO BE CLEAR:  When you're with me, you're family.  I take care of my members and I over deliver... period.  I answer your posts daily with thoughtful feedback that's direct from me.   

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Rapid Socialization

Last night I literally had a dream that I was on Joe Rogan's podcast and we were talking about what I do.  He asked me about dominance struggles and about the first rule of attraction, and then I said "Well, yeah.  Basically what I do is rapid socialization of my clients until they have the ability to function on their own without me.  It takes as little as 3 months."  

Then I woke up... instantly.  "Wow, what a cool phrase!"  I thought.   

So for those of you who have read me for awhile and are familiar with how i teach, this concept of rapid socialization shouldn't be new or mind-boggling or anything like that.  The idea is just that the socialization process doesn't have to take years and instead it can take only a few months to complete. 

Let me explain.  

Say you're a natural alpha dude who learns over the course of his lifetime that he's cool, great looking, great with women, etc.  Still, it takes YEARS to learn how to talk to women, what to say, how to say it, where the boundaries are, etc.  In the end (if you're very lucky), you're the alpha male and you have sex with a bunch of women and then get married and have kids and live happily ever after.  Yay!  :|

Wow, how great for all those guys.  I'm so completely excited for them (not).  

For the rest of us, learning that I AM COOL and I AM GREAT LOOKING and WOMEN LOVE ME almost never happens.  If it does, it happens at a much slower rate than it does for natural alpha males, simply because we don't receive as much positive social feedback as they do.  After all, we lack confidence in all or many areas, and we often doubt the feedback we get even when it is positive.  

This sucks, so to cure the sucking in life in the fastest way possible, you have to engage in rapid socialization.  

Rapid Socialization is the process where you start getting TONS of positive feedback NOW.  This positive feedback from those around you changes you into a different person than you are now.  Your self confidence shoots through the roof, you stop doubting yourself, and best of all women tell you're cool and hot all the time and lots of them want to have sex with you.  Awesome, right!?!

Now I'm sure you're saying "But wait, Jake, this sounds like total bullshit and it'll never happen to me."  

I understand.  Listen up though... 

The reality is that it takes FOUR things to make rapid socialization happen, so if it hasn't happened to you or for you, it's because haven't done the four things that you MUST do to socialize yourself rapidly:  

1.  You MUST find an expert mentor

2.  You MUST get continued hands-on coaching from your mentor

3.  You MUST take massive action

4.  You MUST learn from your mistakes  

Fail on any of these and your process of rapid socialization will slow down or even completely stop.  

However, if you do these things, here's what the process could look like...  

First, you find your mentor.  He takes you to get a professional makeover and professional grooming. This makes you feel fantastic.  Next you take action by going out and talking to women.  You start receiving compliments like you never have before and you feel amazing.  This causes you to want to talk to more women to see what your potential really is.  During the process you make mistakes and you don't judge yourself harshly for them, because after all you still look and feel amazing and your mentor helps you interpret your failures and explains how to learn from them when you can't on your own.  You start getting laid in short order, and with your new-found knowledge, you make less and less mistakes, get laid more and more, and you continue receiving positive feedback.  

At a certain point, you look back on your past and you realize that you've been having success for awhile now.  You remember the "old you" and how much that sucked, and now it's hard for you to understand why more people don't do what you did.  After all, it's just seems so easy now...  

Well, right now is Friday the 13th.  It's July of 2018.  Three months from now it'll be October of 2018 and people will be gearing up for Halloween.  What will you be doing?  Will you be finished with your 3rd month of rapid socialization ready to take home a "slutty nurse" or will you still be where you're at today?  

Regardless of your where you're at right now and regardless of your income, I've created some resources for you to rapidly socialize yourself.  

The first and NEWEST RESOURCE is a video "face-to-face" meeting with me online using Zoom.  If you want to get me on video, you simply signup using the link at the top of this blog page and we chat!  When we're finished I send you a download line and you get to keep the recording of our session! 

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That's it for today guys!  I hope you'll take me up on these fantastic opportunities before it's too late and I become old and lazy, lol.  

Thanks for reading!  

The Lesson In Front of You

It's easy to dream when you start learning about women.  We dream about getting that one hot girl we like.  We dream about maybe getting a girlfriend or even a wife.  Some of us don't even dream about marriage cause we're too busy dreaming about threesomes and dating multiple women.

Regardless of what you're dreaming about, when we dream we're thinking about the future.  In fact, we're focusing on it.

So is focusing on the future okay?

Well, if you're the type of guy who seems to dream a lot and you seem to not be getting very far (or as far as you'd like) with your dreams, then today I'd like introduce the idea to you that your focus may be off a little bit...

Nick Testimonial

See, Here's the Problem...

We all know that women "want" (or think that they want) long-term relationships, marriage, etc.  We see this idea repeated in mainstream media over and over, and women will even tell you to your face that they want long term relationships.  So then why is there a HUGE divorce rate in the US?  What's the huge problem causing this???

The problem is that women's natural actions don't support long-term relationships.   

That's right, I said it.  The actions of women are what cause divorce, not men.  In fact, I'm quite sure that most men are perfectly chill and happy in a long term relationship, and the majority of us certainly aren't taking actions to kill our relationships.  The majority of us just aren't wired that way.  

But back to women.  Why are they killing relationships they get themselves into?  

Because it's in their nature.  

You see, women are constantly unknowingly taking actions (however small) to gain dominance in their relationships, and it's because there is a strong biological mechanism at play.  You see, if a woman can mate with a dominant man and then somehow turn him into a beta-male, then she gets to go out and mate with another dominant male, and if she has another baby then her genes now have a better chance of success than they might have if she only mated with one man.  Pretty simple, right?  Well, this kind of thing happens in a lot in nature.  

So here's how this plays out in real life:  

Man and woman meet.  They have sex and get into a relationship.  Dominance amongst them is established or not established at whatever level happens naturally between them.  From that point on, the woman continues her screening process of trying to gain dominance over the man.  As she attains dominance bit-by-bit over time, she loses attraction towards the man at that same rate.  

Why?  Because... 

Women are attracted to dominant men.  

If you're a dominant man, women will be attracted to you.  Once you "have" a woman, as your level of dominance wanes, so does her level of attraction to you.  

This is where it gets bad for a man.  

When a woman gains dominance and loses attraction to the man she's with, the amount of fights, drama, bullshit, and unhappiness skyrocket until the relationship is over.  As the woman is losing attraction to the man, she'll blame it on HIM.   From that point her mission becomes getting out of the relationship in a way that benefits her the most.  After all, it's his fault.  Remember?  

So who is to blame?  

Well, nobody is to blame really.  Women aren't knowingly engaging in this process, they're simply continuing their screening process during the relationship.  The man's not to blame either because he has no idea how to deal with all the woman's tests over and over.  In my experience, most men simply want to avoid conflict so they can have a peaceful, happy day.  So if the woman is upset or mad, they seek to quell the matter at hand, and in doing so they often give up small pieces of the dominance they once had...  

It's like men are constantly trading their dominance in the relationship for peace that they never get.  

Why does it work out this way?  It works out this way because women are wired to screen constantly for dominance in men (like I mentioned earlier).  It's how they obtain the best suitor for them.  And once they've "chosen" a man, they need constant reassurance that they've chosen correctly.  The way they do that is through small dominance "challenges" throughout the relationship... and yes, this continues even through the course of a marriage. 

So everyone loses.  The women loses a man who could have been (and probably is) a good man.  The man loses his relationship (and half his shit), and any kids are completely fucked over from having a chance at a decent loving upbringing independent from our government's family court system (also quite fucked).  

Ouch... like big fucking ouch.  

Oh!  And by the way this doesn't just go for straight couples.  These roles are often played out among homosexual couples and transsexual couples as well... 

So what's the solution to all of this, you ask?  

The solution is education and practice.  As men, we should educate ourselves on how this happens so that we can practice handling these individual bouts (or dominance struggles as I call them) as they happen in the moment.  To me, this is the only solution to the problem.  

What's this process called?  It's called Maintenance Dominance.  In other words, you should establish dominance early on in your relationship, then when small dominance struggles come up, you should use them as opportunities to maintain your dominance (and therefore her attraction to you) in the relationship.  

It's that simple.  

We recognize that these situations are going to happen, and we simply handle them one by one, and in doing so the woman stays attracted to us because she's reminded of our dominance.  

That's all she really wants anyways...

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Ever feel like this has happened to you?  A woman loses her attraction towards you and then blames you for it and leaves immediately and in dramatic fashion, taking whatever she can from you in the process??? 

Well you're not alone, and the bad news is that you're doomed to repeat this agony throughout your whole life unless you learn to handle these struggles effectively.  

Step 1.  The first step to handling this stuff is to educate yourself.  When a little "struggle" happens to you, try recording it on a voice memo on your phone, or if you can't do that then do your best to remember what was said and write it down.  

Step 2.  Find a way "through."  Once you've failed at being dominant, you now are aware of one way NOT to get things right.  This is a prerequisite to getting things right, so instead of beating yourself up, brainstorm some other ways of handling her ploy for dominance, or simply login to your girlfriendfastlane.com account and I'll tell you the answer on the forum.  I'll even show you visually how to handle the struggle in my weekly "office hours" live chat and you can see first-hand what you should have done.  

Step 3.   Once you know the proper way to handle that particular dominance struggle, you simply wait for it to happen again and you fight the battle when it happens.  You DO NOT talk about fucking Fight Club, lol.  In other words, you don't tell the girl the theory behind what she's doing.  She won't get it and you'll just end up looking weird to her.  Just let the next struggle happen and dominate when it happens.  In this manner you are taking the lead in your relationship by ensuring it's longevity  through your preparedness and conscientious approach.   

Congratulations, you've now got a legit shot at happiness...

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Pssst.... I didn't mention this in the article above, but I also create these struggles to win them because it's faster and better than using pickup lines.  So if you're over using lines then you really should just go and checkout the website already...  It's $7.  You want a chipotle burrito, or to get laid?  Dude.

Pickup Mansion 2018/2019

I've got some EXCITING NEWS for you today!!!

Years ago, guys would fly to Los Angeles to change their lives by joining the "pickup mansion."  They lived in a purpose built home for picking up women and participated in weekly theory sessions and once monthly weekend bootcamps.  Although the program was 12 months long, many of the guys stayed 2 or even 3 years just because they loved the atmosphere of going out with like-minded guys and having so many women around all the time.

Our success was wild...

100% of the guys got laid more than they dreamed of.  Many of the guys got married, got girlfriends, got multiple girlfriends, got rotations, became more successful in business, and overall every single guy grew leaps and bounds in his level of confidence.  Today our students run their own companies, travel the world, have kids, and some are teachers themselves.

That program ended as our industry started to see a decline in TV promotion and people started to wonder if pickup was a thing anymore.  In fact, if you're 21 years old today, you were 11 years old when the "pickup" industry was hot, and you probably wouldn't have even heard of this type of thing in any form of mainstream media since then.

WOW.

Well, I'm happy to say that right now there is a resurgence happening (at least from my point of view) in the level of interest in learning dating skills.  GirlfriendFastlane.com has been active for 6 months and people have been emailing me and texting me asking about the possibility of starting another program like the mansion program we had years ago.

The answer to the question "Will there be another pickup mansion program in Los Angeles" depends on YOU.

Right now I've got 3 guys who have been seriously asking me to start up the program, and it's enough interest that I've decided to get everything going as soon as everyone is ready.    We've talked about a date of January 1st, 2019.  However, I'm willing to start as soon as guys are ready.  After all, summer is around the corner and there will be no shortage of pool parties and bikinis in Hollywood.  It's already begun!

So here we go!  As of TODAY, I'm officially opening up slots for Pickup Mansion 2018/2019!  And as of today I'm officially taking deposits to reserve those spots.

The BAD NEWS:  Unfortunately you can't just send me money and get accepted to this program because I'm not about to let just anyone in.  The right group of guys will be motivated to change their lives, and I plan on creating a positive dynamic for everyone involved.  This means I must have met and trained you personally before I'll even consider your involvement in the program.  One exception to that would be if you get a personal recommendation from Brad P.  because he has trained you before.

The other bad news is that right now I've got solid interest from 3 guys, and I only plan on taking 4 guys unless we get 8 guys total (so that we can have two residences).  There are no guarantees on anything obviously, however if you are interested you should at least shoot me an email (jake@girlfriendfastlane.com) to ask me any questions about the program that you have.

The GOOD NEWS:  The good news is that there's still time to get into this program, and as of today there are slots open.  The other good news is that if you're interested in being a coach for me, this training program is the way to do it.  Think of it like college for pickup coaches in training.  Obviously I'm not requiring that anyone work for me, but if you're the type of guy who might want a future in the dating industry, this is the way.

The PROGRAM is simple.  You live with fellow students (not me) and we go out in the field to bars and clubs two nights per week.  One night per week we meet for theory and for arranging dates and doing phone game with the girls you've met.  In other words, this is NOT a one weekend per month training program, it's a 3 NIGHTS PER WEEK training program.  Oh, and full access to girlfriendfastlane.com and more importantly, ME.  That means text me when you need a text to send her, call me when you need a wing, and invite me on your double date.  We'll make your success happen.

Imagine fixing your dating life ONCE AND FOREVER.  Imagine never worrying that you'll be alone ever again.  Imagine a year of your young life spent in Hollywood living a DREAM that others can't or won't.  Imagine looking back when you're 60 and remembering that one time in your life that you WENT FOR IT.

THIS IS THAT OPPORTUNITY.  

A place specifically designed for picking up women.
Training every week with a top pro.
Guys on the same path as you.
Mornings with sweaty, snoring hotties next to you.
And much much much much more!

Email me and we'll jump on the phone to discuss details, availability, and start date.

jakepulls@gmail.com

I can't wait for you to join us!

The Single Best Opener in the Entire World (And it's NOT "Hi"...)

Today I'm going to tell you what the absolute single best style of opener is in the entire planet.  It's something I use (and you probably already use sometimes), it's NATURAL af, it's canned because it's planned, and NO GIRL will ever suspect just from your opener that it's something made up to talk to her.  The best part about that is you're not going to open girls and immediately have them say "I have a boyfriend" like you see in every YouTube video where guys claim the best opener is "Hello" or "Hi, my name is Josh" or some other terrible load of shit like that.

Come see me speak in Chicago!

Yo!  So i'll be speaking in Chicago on Thursday night, March 1st, 2018.  Yes, that's 1 week away!

This is a free event hosted by a member of the Chicago Lair, so if you're interested in coming, email me jake@girlfriendfastlane.com or jakepulls@gmail.com and I'll send you the details.

Hope to see you there!

The Sherlock Holmes of Pickup

When you start a habit of approaching and that habit continues for years, one of the side effects of that habit is you start to be able to read women very well, even simply by looking at them.  I had a client two weeks ago who is a mentalist for a living.  That means he travels around from city to city doing mind-reading tricks on people for conventions or special events.  Anyways, he came to LA for a few days to train with me, and here's what he had to say about the weekend:

I arrived in Los Angeles around noon on Thursday. Shortly after arriving at my hotel, I received a phone call from Jake. Jake went over the goals for the 1on1, and we set up where we’d meet up later in the evening. The goals Jake had for me were not lofty at all. His goal for me was just to take me to next level above where I’m at right now. I was fine with this because it was realistic, and I wasn’t expecting to be great at pick up after 2.5 years being out of the game.

One thing I noticed about this trip that I was not as nervous for this 1on1 like I was for others. This is my third 1on1 since January 2014.

Jake and I met at a fast-casual restaurant for dinner. Jake and I talked about our history and how we both came into the game. I have been off and on for the last 10 years since my divorce. Jake’s stories were very funny, and I found it very inspiring how much he dedicated himself to it, as he says he is not a natural at this stuff. After about an hour talking, we both headed to the first bar to do some approaches.

When we left I didn’t feel very anxious about doing some approaches but as soon as I walked through the door at the bar I felt that nervous energy that always brings my state down. Jake and I took a lap around the bar. I noticed Jake was extremely social with everybody he came in contact with. He was definitely the man to know at the bar that night. 

After about 30-45 minutes I finally digged up the courage to make some approaches. The first two were quick, low energy, and went nowhere. The highlight of the night came when Jake pointed out a girl showing a lot of skin in the shoulders. We saw her leave her friends and Jake told me to position myself near a entrance way that the girl will have to come through when she came back from the ladies room. I waited about five minutes until I finally saw her coming through. I locked eyes on her, pointed at her hair, and delivered the Trading Hair opener. I don’t even know if I finished or not before the girl grabbed my chest, and then my hand and squeezed like she was really into it. She then walked away. I probably should’ve followed her but I was quite surprised with the reaction from the girl. That usually doesn’t happen ever!

I made a few more approaches but could never spit out the attraction routines after my openers. I guess I found it quite the achievement that I actually opened that I just abandoned the rest of the interaction. Not good on my part.

We went to two more bars that night and my approaches did not seem to improve at all. What I probably got the most out of the workshop was watching Jake approach and interact with girls. It came so naturally to him. Never once did it appear like he was spitting out routines. I saw him only open once with a routine and that was a pair of black girls with Trading Hair. They both were going nuts over it! Jake pushed the envelope a little too much with these girls and we eventually had to leave for another set. 

Jake spotted a Canadian girl with two friends and he opened her. He talked to her for a good 30-45 minutes with me listening in and observing. He fb closed her but could’ve easily made out with her. In fact, he even asked me if I wanted to see that happen but I misunderstood him and said “no, lets move on.”  I wish I could’ve seen this and taken it in.

Day Two

Jake and I met up at a Starbucks to start the day off.  We discussed what happened the night before, what went wrong, and what I needed to do that night to improve. He went over a few sexy stereotypes for me but we both agreed there really wasn’t one for the profession that I am in; therefore, Jake decided to go with a fashion strategy that is current, timeless, and has mass appeal. We spent the next 6 hours shopping for clothing all over Hollywood.  For me this was the highlight of the weekend.  Jake cared so much about picking the perfect outfit for me that he would constantly refuse the store clerk’s fashion advice.  Jake knew exactly what he wanted for and was determined to get it!

After shopping for a jacket, pants, rings, shirt, and shoes we finally had it.  Jake was so excited about what he created.  I was quite impressed too but it was so different than what I’m used to. We then headed to Jake’s barbershop to get my haircut and beard trimmed.  This was the finishing touch that I needed.  After all was said and done, Jake and I agreed that I looked like a totally different person and was ready for a big night out for some approaches.  We went out to eat, and then headed back to our places to rest an hour or two before going out.

I ubered over to the first bar of the night and met Jake there.  It was more of my style of bar.  The music was not as loud and not near as crowded. There were loads of hot women here though. Once again I had problems “self starting” with the approaches and Jake obviously knew it. I finally got pissed off at myself and decided to show Jake what I did for a living and opened a table full of Grecian girls with a mind reading effect. This blew their minds and immediately got me into state. When I got into state I opened a friend of theirs with Horse Girl and I was off flying for the rest of the evening. I made a few quick approaches before I ran into a hot blond with her almost as equally hot brunette friend with the Horse Girl routine. The blonde ate it up and I was locked in with these two for a while. I delivered the Whatever song and totally butchered it. Oh well, it was my first time doing it live in front of someone so I’m not going to beat myself up too much over it.  Jake came over and winged me when he noticed I started struggling. We talked for a while and eventually gave the girls my business card before I left. This was a huge mistake on my part as I should’ve number closed the blonde as I probably would’ve gotten in. I kinda wish we would’ve stuck around pulled these two but I had more work to do.

Most of the bars were completely dead because of it being right after New Years’. We concluded the night by going to one last bar. Nothing here to really approach. Just a bunch of old ladies. We concluded the night here.  Jake seemed very please with my improvement from the night before. I was quite happy with myself too mostly from how I did with the hot blonde at the first bar we went to
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Day Three

Jake and I met for coffee and immediately took an Uber to Santa Monica to do some game at an outdoor bar near the ocean.  This was a very nice place and the girls here were unbelievably hot and may have intimidated me a bit. It was time to put my new fashion and skills to the test.  Once again I had trouble self starting to get out of the gate.  When I did my approaches were very sloppy and I really seemed nervous.  Jake, on the other hand, was in his element. 

My education today was just watching Jake and taking in everything that he did with girls. This was the true education for me during the weekend. Where I didn’t do too hot with approaches, watching Jake made up for it because I now do or think whatever Jake does in any difficult situation I find myself with a girl.  It was at that daytime spot where I realized that Jake possesses a skill that left quite the impression on me.  Jake would look around the place with me and point to a girl, then he would tell me about that girl's past and present dating life and how she viewed herself, just by observing the clothes she was wearing, her body type, and the friends she was hanging out with.  This is a very valuable skill to have in my line of work, and I immediately referred to Jake as the "Sherlock Holmes" of pickup.

We finished up a that bar and went for some pizza nearby.  This is where Jake hit me with some sound philosophy regarding where I am at the moment. I was thinking too much on the negative things and what I couldn’t do instead of things I am doing well and where I am at NOW. We headed back to the hotel for a few hours rest before heading back out to Hollywood for some night game.

That night we returned to first bar we went to on Thursday night.  I didn’t waste anytime opening here because I wanted to finish strong.  The first approach was a blowout.  The second approach was a cute blonde with her black friend.  She responded very well, and I was able to make it through a few attraction routines before she wanted to see one of my mind reading effects.  After I finished the routines and did a little comfort game my state lowered considerably.  Jake held everything up for a while but I just ran out of stuff to say which is my biggest weakness when going out talking to girls.  We eventually exited the group thinking we would see them again later in the night (we didn’t).  The rest of the night was bad for me and Jake could tell I was really tired from the busy weekend.  We decided to conclude the evening with Jake telling me where I was at and what I needed to work on when I returned home.  Even after a bad final night I knew I could approach and do well in sets but the key for me was just self starting.

I highly recommend a 1on1 with Jake.  If you have trouble approaching like me, it is well worth just to go out and hang with Jake for the weekend and watch how he interacts with women.  I believe he could pick up any woman he wants after watching him this weekend.  He was able to give me every single detail on why my approaches were going bad.  He even gave me a few new routines to learn when I am met with certain contingencies during a set.  Jake also customized a few routines with me that go very well with my mind reading act that I perform regularly.  I am very excited to use these.
Since coming home I always think WWJD (what would Jake do) when approaching any situation.  I have had many problems with a girl from work the past few months and my first night back I continuously said and did stuff around her that Jake would’ve done during our 1on1.  Her behavior towards me that night was completely different and more submissive than ever before.  Well it resulted in me taking her home and making out with her, something I’ve rarely done the past few months during our troubles.  

Jake’s dominant struggles are the REAL DEAL.  I can’t wait to practice these because they are indeed a game changer.  Just the fashion makeover alone was worth the money in going out there because, as I learned over the weekend, it is truly your ticket to the door!  Women will look at you and take you way more seriously with a Jake makeover. Trust me! I know from experience!  I do believe we accomplished our goal of taking me to the next level which is giving me the tools to the toolbox to go out and approach and have success with it.  The key is just me going out 3x/week and 50 approaches a month.  It will be done and I can't wait to see where it takes me.  I will definitely have another 1on1 with Jake and I recommend you do as well!

Thanks for the review Chad!

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