Thursday, May 30, 2013

Roleplaying from a dominant position

Today I want to share with you a simple technique that's one of my favorites for meeting women.  This technique can single-handedly gain attraction with a girl and show marvelous social skills.  The technique is role-playing, and though most students can do it after being shown, many do it in a terrible way that ends up killing their game instead of making it...
That terrible way that men role-play with women is from a submissive position, or in a submissive role.

But first!  Let's backup a second and explain role-playing for those who aren't familiar.  Role-playing with a woman when you first meet her is introducing a scenario into the conversation where both of you take on roles other than what you obviously are (two people in a bar talking for the first time).  These roles can literally be anything, and the role-play can be started in many ways.

Let's take the horsegirl line as an example.  In horsegirl, we "ask" the girl to take on the role of the girl who was the weird horsegirl and we take on the role of the guy who was always picking on her, etc.  She knows that we're trying to start the role-play situation when we tell her that she looks just like her, she responds that she's not her, then we tell her "Well I wouldn't say if it was me or not either... but just in case you might be..." and then we treat her as if she was the girl.

The idea of the horsegirl role-play is to setup a situation that's fictitious where we are in a higher value social position than the girl and a dominant position over the girl.  We do this because even though a role-play is fictitious, it still has real-world implications.  In other words, if I act dominant in a role-play and she accepts the submissive role, she's likely to similar circumstances in the real world.  Get it?  It's fake, but it's still kinda true too...

Now there's a problem with this that many guys learning pickup have.  They learn to role-play and start making their own role-plays up, but instead of taking a dominant position or higher value position in their role-play, they instead take a submissive role.  For instance, they might choose to be a student instead of a teacher, or more commonly they role-play that they like the girl instead of that she likes them.  We should always role-play using a "you want me" frame.  In other words, we should always role-play that the girl likes us and we don't know if we like her, not the other way around.

Another form of role-playing that's seldom talked about is man-to-man roleplaying as a form of dominance.  One of the best examples i've seen of this is when Jesse James claims dominance over the OCC motorcycle guys by talking about a "dream" that he had.  If you haven't seen that yet, click here to see it.  Now, in that clip he out and out explains what his dream meant to him, but if you wanted to amog a guy in front of others, you could say the dream part and leave others to understand the meaning.  It's even better if you can do it and only the women will understand the sub-communication.

That's about it for today.  This is a basic and simple topic, but one that every guy should be able to include in his pickups.  As always, good luck and thanks for reading.

3 comments:

  1. Awesome! Thanks for sharing candidly. Appreciate it.

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  2. Hey Jake!

    I was wondering if you'd be willing to share some of your favorite role-play scenarios ...ones that I seem to fall back on often are:

    bossy doctor and nurse
    older worldly professor and the "bad" student
    zen philosophy master and his hot pupil

    I'm curious as to what other role plays guys like to use! Much thanks

    shwayone

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  3. Solid advice Jake. Looking forward to practicing this when I finally get around to doing a follow up session with you.

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